Like what am i even doing I barely know what girls are let alone how to become one

  • PrincessMagnificent [they/them, any]
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    4 years ago

    I have some good news and some bad news.

    The good news is, you're already a girl.

    The bad news is, you're Not Like Other Girls

  • Lil_Revolitionary [she/her,they/them]
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    4 years ago

    Apparently its TERFy or whatever to say "trans girls are 'socialized as men'" but I swear that happened to me and i dont know how to fix it. Sorry for sadposting but im making sure to do it on company time

    • Blurst_Of_Times [he/him,they/them]
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      4 years ago

      Its one of those subjects that, while important, I've almost always seen brought up in bad faith, which sucks because there's such a valuable conversation to be had about how we're socialized in a society where so much is unnecessarily gendered.

      • Lil_Revolitionary [she/her,they/them]
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        4 years ago

        I was about to say we need somewhere to have these discussions free of TERFs but remembered that it exists and it's called Chapo.Chat

    • jack [he/him, comrade/them]
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      4 years ago

      I think that view is criticized because the response to that socialization by cis boys and trans girls is different, which leads to a whole spiral of different social outcomes.

      Also, though, there's not just one way to be trans, and there are certainly trans people who view their gender as less innate or absolute. Though the majority of trans people say they have always been whatever gender they ultimately identify as and only their expression changed, others say they really did change genders internally as well - that they were a man and became a woman, for example. They're both legitimate (and probably based on a lot of different cultural influences).

      Basically, you do you bb

    • Lil_Revolitionary [she/her,they/them]
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      4 years ago

      I'm trying to learn how to live as a girl while spending hours presenting male at work and to family its pretty wild haha. I'll figure it out some day but until then i have a god given right to complain 👍

  • penguin_von_doom [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    Just do you, and don't bother with conventions. By far the most difficult part is when they install that thing that converts your poop into rainbows and roses aroma (I wanted lillac)

  • quartz242 [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    For a lot of trans people this is part of the journey, and its important because it allows you to discover what is really you and what is hosted upon you by society.

    So many trans people struggle with imposter syndrome and I blame the monetization of trans stories for that as it creates a railroad for what the proper trans narrative is and that is not helpful and quite dangerous.

    Seek out gender expression that makes you feel empowered and happy, with that you can make no errors. For what reason would we embark upon such a dangerous and sapping journey if not for the freedom of self.

    Love to you!

  • kristina [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    whats hard is my dick and it needs to be exploded

  • darcy [she/her,fae/faer]
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    4 years ago

    Look at how much cis wlw dont get about other women. it's not a secret handshake club or something. That in particular helps to hammer in that no one really knows what they're doing in life and that includes being woman, i.e. you're doing fine sweetie

  • c6cain6jih6d [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    I've just completely become fucked off from transitioning. I've spent the last year being called Sir working retail to pay rent on a place I don't even like, never having the money to pay for shit like electrolysis, etc. I lost my spiro and don't really even care. I stopped taking my estrogen a couple days after I finally refilled my prescription and got it shipped to me. I care less and less by the day when people misgender me. It's actually made me feel kind of jealous and hostile to hot cis-passing trans girls. And I have become so fucking alienated from the trans "community." I can see the joy leaving people's eyes when they think they've met another person like them and then find out I don't want to be friends with them and I'm a piece of shit. I don't know why I'm like this and I wish people would understand. I'm not a bad person. Am I?

    Am I?

    • Lil_Revolitionary [she/her,they/them]
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      4 years ago

      This is probably more of the trans experience than any of the popular trans girls on Twitter. Its a shitty world out there, I hope you can transition properly one day