I'm a cis dude, but only bc that's what is easiest. If everyone were to collectively decide I was no longer a cis dude I wouldn't care. I don't really have preferred pronouns but I usually just do he/him cause I don't really care and that's what I present as. I should probably just consider myself agender, but again that seems like too much effort, so eh.
I find I have a negative reaction to anything overly "masculine" or "feminine" which makes it hard to be a cis woman because I find we're expected to put more effort into looking a certain way, where-as men can dress comfortably and casually and still be considered a normal-looking dude without being considered "frumpy"
I'm not sure if that's sexist of me to say or not.
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Nice to know I'm not the only woman to feel this way. Although I imagine trans women have it even worse with that extra pressure to pass. Societies expectations are bullshit sometimes, sigh.
tbh i feel like i want to be extremely feminine but because i was raised male in a very homophobic region i always cringe hard at even putting a dress on, let alone makeup. ive been passing for like a bit over 5 years now.
and yeah i definitely get treated differently. i dressed to the nines for a wedding once and got my hair done and had to go in to work suddenly for a bit before the wedding and all the normal schlubs i knew treated me like i was a goddess suddenly. it was weird. everyone showering me with comments everywhere, literally everyone i talked to including people i didnt know. i usually dress very androgynous because dressing feminine gives me so much anxiety that i need to be high as shit to do it.