I'm increasingly becoming unironically volcel. Every time I get horny, I simply deny my programming, firmly remind myself of my volcel oath, and do something more productive, haha. I haven't had sex in almost 9 months and lately I genuinely feel better about myself for it. There's no anxiety over sexually disappointing and no hollow feeling when contact inevitably fizzles out afterwards.

I feel like I have so many better things I could be doing than dating or chasing sex and in coming to that conclusion I've also stumbled my way into a sense of motivation and initiative I didn't know I had.

I'm curious if others have experienced something similar and are willing to discuss it. Anyone else unironically embracing their volcel oath? Lmfao

  • MarxistHedonism [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    I’m involuntarily volcel I guess.

    I used to have a really high sex drive, but then I got an IUD put in like 6 years ago and it completely died. I got the IUD removed after 2 months but my sex drive never returned. I also have pelvic floor spasms, TMJ, and carpal tunnel so like all forms of sex and foreplay are painful.

    I also gained a ton of weight after which I am now finally losing, so I’m hoping that when I feel attractive again I’ll want sex.

    I think my husband I have had sex once in the past 2 years. I feel bad because I feel completely fulfilled by our marriage and I think I would be happy if I never had sex again.

    • Sandinband [any, comrade/them]
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      4 years ago

      I feel you on the lack of sex drive. My significant other thinks I'm not attracted to him anymore but I am, I just don't really crave sex anymore :/

      • MarxistHedonism [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        Yes, exactly.

        It’s not like I have a wandering eye. I don’t want to have sex with anyone, if I did, he’d be the first.

    • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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      4 years ago

      what would your thoughts be about him seeing somebody else for the purpose of sex?

      • MarxistHedonism [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        Logically I’m open to it but I’m afraid that it’s a door that you can’t close once it’s open and I can’t be sure how it would actually make me feel.

        I think I’d be more comfortable if it was a sex worker but I’m very scared to pull the trigger on letting it happen.

        • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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          4 years ago

          Nothing wrong with having a sex worker over. Anyway, life's too short to worry about what MIGHT happen, but if you have the funds to do so I'd get a therapist first.