It isnt revolutionary, but it is good that there is an alternative to monogamy, and dating multiple people makes it easier to survive under capitalism in a lot of cases.

I just remembered a thread where people were being kind of shit about it and felt the need to post

  • penguin_von_doom [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    I think we are so conditioned as a society to group sexual and emotional intimacy, that if someone gives you some special emotional satisfaction that this must be paired with romantic love

    Yes. This puts it so clearly. Ive been struggling do describe exactly this thing, and couldnt. But it seems to be getting worse, because people are lonely, and the most accessible alleviation for loneliness is tinder. And romance, sex and alleviation of loneliness get mixed up together, in something that can easily end up being very unhealthy, but also kinda addicting.

    Also completely agree with the part about needs and desires - people often conflate the two, and cant really tell if they need something or they just desire it. And the thing is sometimes fulfilling a desire is actually kinda bad (dont get me started on my desires for buying swords, lol). You kinda have to have control over these, which is also a part of maturity, and to learn when and how to indulge in them.