Obviously both would come as a shock, but weirdly, I'd feel way more comfortable handling the drug addiction because I could relate to it and empathize more. Meanwhile, I'd struggle to remain intimate with someone fumbling to explain how they thought hurting others was okay at any point in time.
Honest, unpopular answer: I'd rather deal with a chud than my experiences with a meth user. 100 times out of 100.
Yeah, as someone who's in recovery from booze and has dated a benzo&opioid addict, people here are absolutely talking out their ass.
Also, fun story, having to call around to find a sober person because you're too drunk to drive to get your partner out of jail on their own DUI is not a great moment.
Yeah, I take it we're in a community of empaths who emerged from the womb with complete enlightenment and have never diverged from the path.
Or just a bunch of hypocrites.
Easily the hard drug addiction.
Let people grow.
(If they're currently a bigot, then that's the deal-breaker)
Never been in a relationship but probably the drug addiction too. If they bigoted they probably saying things behind my back or will if we ever break up. If this the case I don't think I could ever share anything deep or personal with them.
Drug addiction. People get into bad places. Whom amongst us hasn't at least overdone it with pot/ booze/ kratom...
Cop out answer: I think it depends on the situations.
Bigoted shit is real bad but it could literally just be because they were raised by crazy people and didn't learn until someone called them on their shit. I'm sure I had some horrible takes when I was younger just because I was never exposed to things outside the middle class bubble I was raised in. Luckily my area is somewhat diverse (and my family are immigrants) so racism never had a chance to take root, but when everyone you know is religious you can start internalizing or repeating shitty takes about lgbtq people in the foolish belief that you're not trying to hurt them you're trying to save them. Usually you figure out those ideas were just dumb bigotry and were intended to hurt people, you stop, you grow as a person, and then casually find out one of those people you had bigoted ideas about is you (and your siblings, and your partner, and maybe one of your parents... church is a fuck).
Hard drug addictions come with a lot of baggage and possible current problems. There's a huge difference between maxing a credit card because all your cash went to coke vs stealing from your family vs risking people's safety and health by shooting up secretly vs literally commiting violence to get drugs. Addiction is a medical condition but I would lose a lot of trust if it was an active addiction that they were hiding instead of pretending an old addiction had never happened.
I think for both they come with the same copout: was it hidden because they're secretly still like that, or was it hidden out of shame because they're no longer that way? I wouldn't care about the past if they've truly changed, the main issue is the lies or acts related to the past or if they haven't changed
Idk, how many years ago? I grew up on 4chan from 2005-2009 Im sure my post history was not great
we make a callout post and ruin their life because people dont change
