so i’m dating a girl, and last night she mentioned she had BPD. i didn’t think much of it, i wasn’t familiar with it. i just started doing research and went to reddit (maybe a big mistake) just to see what ‘real life’ people were saying about it. it’s /r/BPDlovedones and it’s basically victims of people who have dated someone with BPD...

it’s currently scaring the shit out of me and kind of making me have a panic attack. there was a post saying “Any advice for someone starting to date a person with BPD?” and literally everyone said “Don’t. they’ll ruin your life. the person they are now is not who they really are. they change themselves to adjust to your personality” and it all the basic patterns align with what i’m experiencing. it’s very scary. i don’t know what to do.

edit: yeah it’s just shitty non-BPD being very hateful and resentful. very insensitive, kinda dramatic. anyway

i know reddit is infamous for having these ‘victim’ groups who hate on a certain type of people who ruined their lives, and it feels very dehumanizing. i don’t think it is impossible to date this person and i don’t want to just stop seeing them. i don’t know what to do tbh. just very overwhelmed

  • cleanshavedballs [none/use name]
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    4 years ago

    Seriously all the people who you might be tempted to call abelist aren't wrong. A woman with BPD absolutely destroyed my life and career because her mental issues were rampant and unchecked.

    My best friend in the whole world has BPD too, but has been in treatment for it for a decade. But even they can still be shifty and manipulative, but because of treatment I can tell them to fuck off and they do. But I'm not sleeping with them.

    Just be careful my dude. Cluster B isn't like other things. If your partner isn't actively seeking help for their disorder they are a time bomb