ratfuckingfink [he/him]

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Cake day: August 27th, 2020

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  • yeah, i hate the stigma on mental illnesses in general, though i’ve never really done my research on BPD until today. but yeah if you say “stay away from these ppl” you’re a shitty person.

    i also don’t know if it’s our place as non-BPD to say “you need therapy”, but encouraging it in the right way





  • but you deserve love comrade 🥺.

    no but for real, isn’t everyone different? any advice you can give besides ‘don’t’ haha.

    edit: i don’t know if this means anything but for us to combat our individual co dependency issues, we limit ourselves to seeing each other two times a week





  • so i’m dating a girl, and last night she mentioned she had BPD. i didn’t think much of it, i wasn’t familiar with it. i just started doing research and went to reddit (maybe a big mistake) just to see what ‘real life’ people were saying about it. it’s /r/BPDlovedones and it’s basically victims of people who have dated someone with BPD...

    it’s currently scaring the shit out of me and kind of making me have a panic attack. there was a post saying “Any advice for someone starting to date a person with BPD?” and literally everyone said “Don’t. they’ll ruin your life. the person they are now is not who they really are. they change themselves to adjust to your personality” and it all the basic patterns align with what i’m experiencing. it’s very scary. i don’t know what to do.

    i know reddit is infamous for having these ‘victim’ groups who hate on a certain type of people who ruined their lives, and it feels very dehumanizing. i don’t think it is impossible to date this person and i don’t want to just stop seeing them. i don’t know what to do tbh. just very overwhelmed





  • i’m dating this person and they’re super cute and we’re romantic with each other (give each other flowers and cute little notes) i’ve literally only seen them 3 times, 2 dates. i got out of long term monogamous relationship in november and told myself i wouldn’t be in another for a while.

    here i am on date 2/3 and like falling for this person. i need help dude like damn why can’t i just be a hopeless romantic without catching feelings

    edit: ok it gets worse- me and my comrade are self proclaimed friends, but we kiss and i’m also romantic with them. so basically i’m just kissing everyone and tbh it’s pretty cool. i want my cake and to eat it too.