I'm going to post a couple links to sources for the next couple days to hopefully start a conversation in this space! These will fall in the area of Fat Studies and there's some norms you should be aware of:

  • "fat" is taken as a neutral descriptor, think of it as reclaiming the word.
  • "obese" arbitrarily medicalises fatness and Others fat people

I'm a cis man and I have (had) body image issues (in the past)

https://humanparts.medium.com/my-journey-toward-radical-body-positivity-3412796df8ff

I'm queer and fat

https://www.dropbox.com/s/yeefpijtl4s7orv/Flaunting%20Fat%20%E2%80%93%C2%A0Sex%20with%20the%20Lights%20On.pdf?dl=0

I'm queer and not fat

https://www.bitchmedia.org/post/fat-liberation-is-totally-queer

The others don't apply to me and/or I only have the energy/time to read one source

https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/everything-you-know-about-obesity-is-wrong/

:sankara-salute:

👉 Part 2 is up

👉 Part 3 is up

    • gobble_ghoul [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      my scoliosis is a big factor in me wanting to maintain a lighter weight, so i feel you. my girlfriend tries to be nice and disagree with me when i say things like "i've put on some weight", but the truth is that it literally physically hurts me when i cultivate too much mass

        • gobble_ghoul [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          yeah, it's one thing to say we need to quit being mean to fat people (we do) but it's a bit frustrating sometimes having people tell me it's okay that i've put on weight when for me it's not okay. i literally could have made state records with my endurance, but running fucks me up, and even more when i'm out of shape

      • Exorcistbreakdancing [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        Oh man cooking was such a daunting task for me for so long. (Sometimes it still is and my roommates are like ???? ) I’m pretty annoyed that cooking wasn’t a regular part of life growing up.

    • PouncySilverkitten [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      Agree completely. I had an epiphany during these Covid times about what I needed from my diet, which was simply to eat less and eat differently/vegan. Over the years, this has been framed to me as “restriction” or “disordered,” but that’s not true. I eat things that I want to eat, but less of them. I had to look at myself and be honest about the fact that I just don’t need to eat that many calories. I’m short and, at the moment, not overly active.

      I also noticed how easy it was to be fed by people at work; pre-Covid, people would bring in snacks or there would be pizza or cake or cookies for whatever reason. Now it’s not happening due to social distancing, and I feel a lot better without having to think about it at all. I don’t have to resist the offers of food, and I don’t have to argue with myself. I just go home and have the stuff I really want. Kind of dreading the return to form, to be honest.

    • carlin [he/him,comrade/them]
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      4 years ago

      There's a piece I can link about how many FA people try to lose weight and keep it a secret because they feel guilty about it. I would recommend you look into body neutrality, which is talked about elsewhere in this post https://hexbear.net/post/83994/comment/910868