Hey thanks so much for your response, sorry it took me so long to get back to you, I have had a very busy week and a half with university starting up again.

That's an interesting perspective you give on different people's bodies having different standards of health. For me, at least the health of my partner would be important to me, I would not want someone I care about to contract illnesses or have problems with their body because they are overweight. Also their ability to do certain things. I like walking, for example, I would not want to date someone who would struggle to walk for more than 30 minutes for example.

I see your point entirely with regards to fetishisation. A while back I looked up stories on google of people in relationships where one partner had a fat fetish, all of the ones I could find were negative. Mostly because the fat partner felt objectified. Needless to say, I didn't feel very good about my sexuality afterwards.

I tend to feel as though I am objectifying women and being kinda misogynist when I feel attracted to their overweight bodies, and I feel uncomfortable talking about this preference with anyone because of this reason. I also feel kinda weird about it when it comes to dating preferences, someone's personality, values, interests etc are very important to me when deciding if I want to date someone. Having physical preferences seems to me to feel like it shouldn't mean very much in comparison to these things, and yet it kinda does for some reason.

What do you think? Do you mind going a bit more in detail about the kind of research that you did?