Alright so in general, this community handled this whole ordeal really well during the investigation. But now that it's closed, turning it into a "meme" is still really harmful for anyone who has been sexually abused or has gone through the process of reporting sexual abuse.

Just, keep in mind that the jokes you make may seem harmless to you, but for people who have experienced this kind of thing (on both sides), it makes the community feel less like a safe space.

Yesterday, a bunch of people on the Discord were ripping the original story to pieces in a way that almost seemed victim-blame-y. While yes, I tended to agree with a lot of what those people were saying, anyone reading the reaction would likely feel uncomfortable or unable to come forward in the community if they had experienced sexual abuse without being "ripped apart."

I didn't see that much here on ChaCha, but it's worth a reminder. So, just something to keep in mind while y'all are celebrating.

Edit: y'all this should not be considered a "hot take"

Edit2: alright this has been extraordinarily exhausting so I'm gonna just.. call it quits for a lil bit on this. toodles.

    • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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      4 years ago

      Yeah the admins and mods do the right thing and take the accusation seriously and investigate it, then we have tons of people saying they shouldn't have done that

      • CarlTheRedditor [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        tons of people saying they shouldn’t have done that

        Do we though? And are those "tons" even regular users? Or is this a few people who maybe don't represent the attitude of this site?

        • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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          4 years ago

          And are those “tons” even regular users?

          That's the question. I think the admin and mod team handled it as best as they could, but then there were highly upvoted comments saying "I wouldn't have let this go on for so long" and "I knew it was fake the whole time!". So yeah