• Cromalin [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    yeah, it's more insidious than just wanting to date us, being a chaser often means they dehumanize trans people and see us as nothing more than genitalia

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      Yeah, there's something that just sets chasers apart from all the general shittyness that women have to endure when dating men. I also agree with the meme's premise that cis lesbian chasers are very different from cis dude chasers. The lesbian gaze just works differently. When your way of desiring somebody is built around admiring and glorifying that somebody, the results are just different than when your way of desiring somebody is to reduce that somebody to a collection of body parts. That's not to say cis lesbians always act in that way, we've all grown up in a mysogynist culture that teaches the male gaze to all of us, lesbians whether cis or trans aren't immune to copying that mode of desire. It's also not to say that cis lesbians can't be objectifying and othering towards trans women, but i always get the impression that the problematic ones in that crowd simply lack the experience with and understanding of trans women instead of being as inherently bad as the guy chasers. idk, maybe i've just missed on the really bad lesbian chasers so far, but my own shitty experiences in that regard have been with dudes in spite of me mostly hanging out in queerfeminist spaces. The people everybody else tells horror stories about also tend to be guys. And this is by far not the first chaser meme i've come across, but the first one that even acknowledges lesbian chasing as a thing.

      • Cromalin [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        yeah for sure

        also the phrasing of it is just really funny to me

        • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          yeah i love that, it's such a wonderfully stereotypical lesbian thirstypost.