Guy chasers: cool, a girl with a dick, i wonder if she'd pound me
Lesbian chasers: cool, a girl with a built-in strap, i wonder if she'd pick me up, throw me on the bed and pound me
t4t: OMG the way you touch me makes me feel as if it's already a clit how do you even do that hnnnnnnnngggajlknohbüoubnäbjkbuibkbkjjkbvhjlljhjl
OMG the way you touch me makes me feel as if it's already a clit how do you even do that hnnnnnnnngggajlknohbüoubnäbjkbuibkbkjjkbvhjlljhjl
my bf says this and it kinda makes him upset lmfao. im sorry, i just do that! muscle memory. he has to remind me not to
Tbh those don’t sound like chasers, just people who into trans women.
Its fine until everybody expects you to do specific the sexual acts that they want to do just because of your genitals. The amount of trans women who want to throw women around and pound them is negligible. Going on dates where the other person has tons of expectations and assumptions about things they don't even understand is frustrating.
Like, none of those people ever consider that trans women might be insecure about their genitals. They just hear cock and suddenly getting that is all they care about. It feels really shitty as a trans woman.
I get that, I’ve had my fair share of interactions with chasers on dating apps. The quote I was responding to just didn’t sound like the rabid fetishization I usually associate with chasers. I’m also a switch so I don’t mind topping and throwing someone around a bit but the expectation that I automatically would would bother me too.
Yeah i don't mind that either, what bothers me is that people assume it's what all of us would be into naturally, or that they would object to us getting bottom surgery, or when they disregard obvious dysphoria-induced discomfort. I get the appeal of a nice girldick, i love gock, but i always put the needs of the people i'm dating first. If she doesn't want to be touched below a point where her balls come into play, i'm not doing that, if she wants me to use certain terms for her parts, i always stick with these, if she tells me that she hopes HRT will shrink her giant girldick, i'm supportive instead of saying "but i love how thick and fuckhuge it is" even though i do love how thick and fuckhuge it is. Because i know that kind of pain and because i care. A lot of cis people don't, because to them we aren't people, but a porn genre.
Your girlfriend is very real and very pretty :)
I also have decided to keep mine. I mean specifically women who expect me to manhandle them, do all the initiating, while not making me feel pretty or safe. I'm happy to top, but I won't do it if its the expectation.
imo anyone who expects a trans woman to top them based on no information other than their genitals doesn't have the understanding or sensitivity necessary to hook up with us, let alone date us.
The lesbian chaser sounds great until you realize she's chasing an ftm.
there are a fair number of cis lesbians who talk about transfems like this, but yeah some of them are gross about transmasc dudes specifically
I'm here from "All". Could someone explain what are Lesbian Chasers and a Guy Chasers?
A chaser is a cis person who looks specifically for trans people to date. Usually trans women. A lesbian chaser is a lesbian looking for trans girls, and a guy chaser is a guy looking for trans girls. Usually being a chaser is frowned upon because it can be perceived as othering trans people.
Chasers aren't just cissies who find us hot, everybody does that because we are hot, that's not chasing. Chasing is an implicitly transphobic form of fetishism. All trans people with some experience and a working self-preservation instinct avoid chasers because typical chaser behavior includes:
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aggressive flirting often bordering on sexual harassment, driven by the idea that it's ok to treat us like men, in this case meaning that it's ok to be sexually demanding and up-front towards us in ways that chasers would never show towards cis women
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emotional manipulation targeting specific weaknesses of trans people, such as playing on dysphoria-specific insecurities
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being ashamed of fucking us and not wanting to be seen with us in public
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wanting us to fulfill certain very specific sexual fantasies that frequently trigger our dysphoria (such as aggressively topping the chaser) or invalidate our gender identity (such as being "sissified" by the chaser)
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making demands to remain at a specific, fetishized transition stage which frequently includes trying to talk us out of surgeries that require year-long struggles to get them in the first place. A lot of chasers only care about the girldick, which is a real problem when you're a girl that absolutely needs to get her dick turned inside-out to get a nice neo-vagina.
yeah, it's more insidious than just wanting to date us, being a chaser often means they dehumanize trans people and see us as nothing more than genitalia
Yeah, there's something that just sets chasers apart from all the general shittyness that women have to endure when dating men. I also agree with the meme's premise that cis lesbian chasers are very different from cis dude chasers. The lesbian gaze just works differently. When your way of desiring somebody is built around admiring and glorifying that somebody, the results are just different than when your way of desiring somebody is to reduce that somebody to a collection of body parts. That's not to say cis lesbians always act in that way, we've all grown up in a mysogynist culture that teaches the male gaze to all of us, lesbians whether cis or trans aren't immune to copying that mode of desire. It's also not to say that cis lesbians can't be objectifying and othering towards trans women, but i always get the impression that the problematic ones in that crowd simply lack the experience with and understanding of trans women instead of being as inherently bad as the guy chasers. idk, maybe i've just missed on the really bad lesbian chasers so far, but my own shitty experiences in that regard have been with dudes in spite of me mostly hanging out in queerfeminist spaces. The people everybody else tells horror stories about also tend to be guys. And this is by far not the first chaser meme i've come across, but the first one that even acknowledges lesbian chasing as a thing.
yeah i love that, it's such a wonderfully stereotypical lesbian thirstypost.
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a chaser is someone who fetishizes transness, and the post is a joke about how lesbians fetishizing trans women and cishet men fetishizing us express it in different ways
for an example of a bit account parodying the stereotypical lesbian chaser, check out halimede
the problem is that people who act like this often don't actually respect trans people as anything other than a sex object
