I appreciate this tip, however I still feel as though it is difficult to break into social circles like this. I have considerable anxiety related to meeting people
the people doing Friday night magic at your local game store often have the same social discomforts and anxieties, trust me
Plus, the point of these activities isn't just to be in a situation where there other people. The shared activity gives an easy topic of discussion and a distraction from the social effort. You just play the game/do the thing and it happens naturally.
I do sincerely appreciate the encouragement. I dont want to seem contrarian but just even finding these groups feels out of reach. Everyone says just join a group but literally I dont understand how to find said groups. Might be my own inability but it is terribly isolating to be in a city alone. Edit: I also dont play games like magic. Ill play other board games though.
The steps to get involved in it aren't complicated (I keep harping on a game store because it's what I do personally).
Use this site to find one near you https://www.localgamestores.com/
Pick one and look at its event schedule
Go to something described as beginner friendly
Give it your best effort; no one is judging you
It won't be easy, but it will be simple. If you've come here asking, you understand that you need to make a behavioral change to improve your social life. This is it. It requires effort and commitment.
Do you mind if I message you in a few days to ask if you've followed up on this?
You can follow up, it will likely not be a totally positive result when you do. However I see what you mean and will do my best to try and improve. Thank you again! :heart-sickle:
It's hard to do something new and scary! But your comfort zone is only making you miserable, so you gotta break out of it..And sometimes you will fail! That's ok. The key is to not let things discourage you.
I've moved around quite a bit the last 10 years, all the friends I've made are people I share common interests with. Try and find people who like the same movies/tv/books/sports teams/ideology. Is there a DSA? I've been there, it's lonely, and it takes work to find friends.
I appreciate this tip, however I still feel as though it is difficult to break into social circles like this. I have considerable anxiety related to meeting people
the people doing Friday night magic at your local game store often have the same social discomforts and anxieties, trust me
Plus, the point of these activities isn't just to be in a situation where there other people. The shared activity gives an easy topic of discussion and a distraction from the social effort. You just play the game/do the thing and it happens naturally.
I do sincerely appreciate the encouragement. I dont want to seem contrarian but just even finding these groups feels out of reach. Everyone says just join a group but literally I dont understand how to find said groups. Might be my own inability but it is terribly isolating to be in a city alone. Edit: I also dont play games like magic. Ill play other board games though.
The steps to get involved in it aren't complicated (I keep harping on a game store because it's what I do personally).
Use this site to find one near you https://www.localgamestores.com/
Pick one and look at its event schedule
Go to something described as beginner friendly
Give it your best effort; no one is judging you
It won't be easy, but it will be simple. If you've come here asking, you understand that you need to make a behavioral change to improve your social life. This is it. It requires effort and commitment.
Do you mind if I message you in a few days to ask if you've followed up on this?
You can follow up, it will likely not be a totally positive result when you do. However I see what you mean and will do my best to try and improve. Thank you again! :heart-sickle:
It's hard to do something new and scary! But your comfort zone is only making you miserable, so you gotta break out of it..And sometimes you will fail! That's ok. The key is to not let things discourage you.
Motivation comes from doing.
Do you have a friend/sibling to join in? Everyone is as nervous as you are.
No, I moved to a city alone. Edit: Also do not have siblings
I've moved around quite a bit the last 10 years, all the friends I've made are people I share common interests with. Try and find people who like the same movies/tv/books/sports teams/ideology. Is there a DSA? I've been there, it's lonely, and it takes work to find friends.
Tried political stuff before to get involved and got kinda burned by disengenius recruiting.