One of the funnier things about college/YA life is how much people I know will nickel and dime each other about shared expenses. I knew people who were the closest of friends who would demand a venmo over 4$ worth of coffee instead of you know, just paying for the whole ticket and the other person gets next. Or the time I ordered like 3 pizzas for a social function last minute and multiple people asked me how much they owed me for a slice like jesus christ just enjoy the pizza
one of the even funnier things about college life is the obvious wealth disparity between kids with cash and kids on a tight budget, like one person can casually order the 3 pizzas for a party and routinely go out for coffee like a boss and the other person is eating one meal a day out of a can, worrying about a few bucks like a grubby urchin.
Honestly I think that makes it weirder. Like I knew I and one other dude had way more money then any of our friends so we just kinda traded of between the two of us.
Really cause I had to hide milk because people would steal it all like I would buy milk to make cereal, go to a lecture and when I got back it would all be gone like a hoard of locusts had come through
One of the funnier things about college/YA life is how much people I know will nickel and dime each other about shared expenses. I knew people who were the closest of friends who would demand a venmo over 4$ worth of coffee instead of you know, just paying for the whole ticket and the other person gets next. Or the time I ordered like 3 pizzas for a social function last minute and multiple people asked me how much they owed me for a slice like jesus christ just enjoy the pizza
I too must've been raised weird because this is an annoying thing I've encountered as well. I'm willing to pay for pizza for DnD night rather than sit down and start dividing the cost of it between everyone; for one thing I don't want someone at the table to stop themselves from taking another slice because they feel they're going over their payment. I'm not strictly against dividing the cost up between everyone, but I am if it means people will get upset about going over your 'investment'. Heck, I'll order several and that way we don't have to pick a pizza type we'd all be fine with, instead we can get multiple flavors.
Speaking as someone who until recently was permenantly skint and has now got to 'not quite skint' there's a reason for this.
I would always pay my share and I would never accept a round of drinks except when it was blatantly clear it wasn't expected I'd get one in because when I went out I had a strict amount to spend.
I didn't want to be seen as scrounging or mooching off my richer friends who really had very little understanding of what it's like to be skint. If someone offers to pay for pizza one week, great - but that means at some point in the near future I have got to find 40 quid or whatever. Even if I am not paying for the previous few weeks, if I'm really skint I just can't put that money aside because saving that kind of money when you are skint just isn't possible.
Also if everyone pays their share, I can get cheaper options, plain pizza or a pint of something cheap. That means I can spend less and still enjoy a night out.
If you've got a group of people with significantly different incomes, everyone paying their own way just works better.
I knew people who were the closest of friends who would demand a venmo over 4$ worth of coffee instead of you know, just paying for the whole ticket and the other person gets next.
It's easier when you're flush than when you're strapped. Sometimes you're literally in a situation where you can't afford to pay $12 for all three coffees and you need that money for lunch. When my account is in the quadruple digits, yeah, fuck sure. Money isn't real. But when my bank just slapped me with an overdraft fee last week, I'm incredibly sensitive about this kind of thing.
One of the funnier things about college/YA life is how much people I know will nickel and dime each other about shared expenses. I knew people who were the closest of friends who would demand a venmo over 4$ worth of coffee instead of you know, just paying for the whole ticket and the other person gets next. Or the time I ordered like 3 pizzas for a social function last minute and multiple people asked me how much they owed me for a slice like jesus christ just enjoy the pizza
one of the even funnier things about college life is the obvious wealth disparity between kids with cash and kids on a tight budget, like one person can casually order the 3 pizzas for a party and routinely go out for coffee like a boss and the other person is eating one meal a day out of a can, worrying about a few bucks like a grubby urchin.
Ah yes the bougie decadences of Dunkin and Papa Johns, things clearly not occasionally enjoyed by broke college students
A reckoning is coming for the bourgeois that enjoy Papa Johns
Eating Papa Johns is its own punishment.
Honestly I think that makes it weirder. Like I knew I and one other dude had way more money then any of our friends so we just kinda traded of between the two of us.
Really cause I had to hide milk because people would steal it all like I would buy milk to make cereal, go to a lecture and when I got back it would all be gone like a hoard of locusts had come through
It's funny because you had enough money in your bank account at all for 3 pizzas
I too must've been raised weird because this is an annoying thing I've encountered as well. I'm willing to pay for pizza for DnD night rather than sit down and start dividing the cost of it between everyone; for one thing I don't want someone at the table to stop themselves from taking another slice because they feel they're going over their payment. I'm not strictly against dividing the cost up between everyone, but I am if it means people will get upset about going over your 'investment'. Heck, I'll order several and that way we don't have to pick a pizza type we'd all be fine with, instead we can get multiple flavors.
Speaking as someone who until recently was permenantly skint and has now got to 'not quite skint' there's a reason for this.
I would always pay my share and I would never accept a round of drinks except when it was blatantly clear it wasn't expected I'd get one in because when I went out I had a strict amount to spend.
I didn't want to be seen as scrounging or mooching off my richer friends who really had very little understanding of what it's like to be skint. If someone offers to pay for pizza one week, great - but that means at some point in the near future I have got to find 40 quid or whatever. Even if I am not paying for the previous few weeks, if I'm really skint I just can't put that money aside because saving that kind of money when you are skint just isn't possible.
Also if everyone pays their share, I can get cheaper options, plain pizza or a pint of something cheap. That means I can spend less and still enjoy a night out.
If you've got a group of people with significantly different incomes, everyone paying their own way just works better.
sounds like you were raised "with money".
$4 buys a lot of ramen at the end of the month.
It's easier when you're flush than when you're strapped. Sometimes you're literally in a situation where you can't afford to pay $12 for all three coffees and you need that money for lunch. When my account is in the quadruple digits, yeah, fuck sure. Money isn't real. But when my bank just slapped me with an overdraft fee last week, I'm incredibly sensitive about this kind of thing.
If you ask for it, you pay for it. If not then it's a gift.
That's the system I used with my flatmate.
If I owed money for utilities then I'd usually pay it off by buying food if I went out and he didn't want to go. Worked out all pretty good.