thinking about a friend from high school who i said a lot of eggy shit to and they said a lot back at me. wonder how they're doing?

  • ElRenosaurusReg [fae/faer, comrade/them]
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    1 year ago

    I'm absolutely with you on that. I'll never say it outright like "Hey friend, you're trans" but I've had the conversation multiple times where I've said something along the lines of "Hey that was a super not-cis thing to say/do, do we maybe wanna unpack that?"

    The prime dirEGGtive was meant to be broken, but it should be broken tactfully.

    • Kuori [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      prime dirEGGtive

      data-laughing but also yes, exactly. tact is vital; i think it's telling that a lot of the concerns about violating the PD in trans-positive spaces boil down to "but what if it forces them further into denial/otherwise makes it worse?" and of course no one wants to be (or even just feel!) responsible for that. so i do think it's important to treat the issue with care and caution when we're dealing with people who aren't initiated into the mysteries.

      basically "be gentle, but No Trans Left Behind"