Almost 3 years ago now, surfing around r/traaaa I came across this comic. I just liked the community because I thought trans people had some great memes and sense of humor, and I thought it was pretty cool that people stepped out to be themselves... Then this. Just wanted to share.
Hope this is ok for me to post.
In theory, I like the idea of being a woman. It's just that I absolutely dread growing old as a woman, whereas I'm pretty cool with growing older as a man. I'm also pretty comfortable being a guy and more or less at peace with it. I also would have completely unrealistic beauty standards for myself... If I'm not the most beautiful woman in the room, what's the point? Plus, I would want to get implants and surgery; anything less than being smoking hot would be a disappointment for me. If I were 10 years younger, I would consider it. I'm close to my mid-30s and want to be a father one day... not a mom. I'm also lazy as hell, and being a hot woman sounds like super high maintenance.
Respect to anyone who transitions, but I don't think I'm brave enough for it.
Now there is a possibility that I am trans, but does it honestly matter if I don't transition and live my whole life as a guy ?
just wanted to say that this was 100% me before transition and i ended up regretting putting it off
not to say you'll end up in the same boat, just that you can feel and think all these things and still be trans. i will also say that i am infinitely happier than i ever was as a man
however things shake out for you, i hope you end up happy
Can I make a thread about my feelings at some point ? Im not gonna make it right now since im not feeling it. But It would be nice to have some input from more people.
you definitely don't need permission, but i certainly don't think there's any problem with it
Thanks either way
if you think it might be helpful to you then you absolutely should! you definitely don't need anything like permission, particularly from me.
The only person you are transitioning for is yourself, so it's all up to you.
While I would say that those beauty standards would almost certainly shift and change with time, if you feel genuinely comfortable where you are now and where you think you will be in the future, then you're in a good spot anyways.
Self knowledge is worth something on its own. There are plenty of trans people who live as their assigned gender and have no plans to transition. There’re valid reasons for this and safety is a big one, physical, social, and psychological alike.
I present as my assigned gender because the fluidity and androgyny I’d prefer is very difficult to achieve for various reasons. I still get a lot out of understanding my dysphoria as such and doing tiny little subjective things that feel gender affirming to me throughout my day.
It’s also helped me massively just in terms of my self worth and in terms of dealing with my body dysmorphia.