Well she says herself that she'd rather have been a woman. So she's already out to anyone who's paying attention. Boymoding when everyone already knows you're trans just seems like a ridiculous, harmful farce to me. And everyone was arbitrarily gendering her the other way anyway, so it would be a double standard to degender her after this revelation in my opinion.
If the egg is a friend, or someone who hasn't already outed herself on the internet, then no, I wouldn't do that. If they're a friend then you should discuss the subject.
We should let people self identify, though, right?
People have different relationships with their gender identities and how they are discussed. I know a trans woman who specifically asked not to be referred to as she/her until she was further along in her transition. This is from a trans woman who outed herself, so I don't think it's out of line for a 68 year old who might not even think transition is possible to have similar feelings towards pronouns.
It reminds me of that article arguing Kurt Cobain was trans. It was really convincing, and the author really believes Kurt was trans but still uses he/him throughout because Kurt never self described as a woman.
"I wish I was born a woman" and "I am a trans woman" aren't the same thing. Unfortunately, many people have resigned themselves to the idea that transition isn't a true possibility. I'd love to have that conversation with these people and push them along, but it's their choice and belief at the end of the day.
Is it cool to refer to an egg as she?
It would be cooler to invent a time machine and inject her with estrogen in the 80s.
Yeah, I wish these things could have been available earlier. Even I didn't know it was a thing in high school.
Well she says herself that she'd rather have been a woman. So she's already out to anyone who's paying attention. Boymoding when everyone already knows you're trans just seems like a ridiculous, harmful farce to me. And everyone was arbitrarily gendering her the other way anyway, so it would be a double standard to degender her after this revelation in my opinion.
If the egg is a friend, or someone who hasn't already outed herself on the internet, then no, I wouldn't do that. If they're a friend then you should discuss the subject.
We should let people self identify, though, right?
People have different relationships with their gender identities and how they are discussed. I know a trans woman who specifically asked not to be referred to as she/her until she was further along in her transition. This is from a trans woman who outed herself, so I don't think it's out of line for a 68 year old who might not even think transition is possible to have similar feelings towards pronouns.
It reminds me of that article arguing Kurt Cobain was trans. It was really convincing, and the author really believes Kurt was trans but still uses he/him throughout because Kurt never self described as a woman.
"I wish I was born a woman" and "I am a trans woman" aren't the same thing. Unfortunately, many people have resigned themselves to the idea that transition isn't a true possibility. I'd love to have that conversation with these people and push them along, but it's their choice and belief at the end of the day.