We should let people self identify, though, right?
People have different relationships with their gender identities and how they are discussed. I know a trans woman who specifically asked not to be referred to as she/her until she was further along in her transition. This is from a trans woman who outed herself, so I don't think it's out of line for a 68 year old who might not even think transition is possible to have similar feelings towards pronouns.
It reminds me of that article arguing Kurt Cobain was trans. It was really convincing, and the author really believes Kurt was trans but still uses he/him throughout because Kurt never self described as a woman.
"I wish I was born a woman" and "I am a trans woman" aren't the same thing. Unfortunately, many people have resigned themselves to the idea that transition isn't a true possibility. I'd love to have that conversation with these people and push them along, but it's their choice and belief at the end of the day.
We should let people self identify, though, right?
People have different relationships with their gender identities and how they are discussed. I know a trans woman who specifically asked not to be referred to as she/her until she was further along in her transition. This is from a trans woman who outed herself, so I don't think it's out of line for a 68 year old who might not even think transition is possible to have similar feelings towards pronouns.
It reminds me of that article arguing Kurt Cobain was trans. It was really convincing, and the author really believes Kurt was trans but still uses he/him throughout because Kurt never self described as a woman.
"I wish I was born a woman" and "I am a trans woman" aren't the same thing. Unfortunately, many people have resigned themselves to the idea that transition isn't a true possibility. I'd love to have that conversation with these people and push them along, but it's their choice and belief at the end of the day.