Ranking labels by how comfortable I feel applying them to myself
Future woman, very comfortable.
Woman, depends on the moment. Right now it feels weird but sometimes is very comforting.
Lesbian, actually feels really comfortable. I suppose that makes sense, if I'm a woman I'm definitely attracted only to other women.
Trans, What might make less sense is it feels more weird to call myself trans. I know that if I'm a woman, I must be a trans one, but it still feels very weird.
lgbt/queer, And finally, possibly making the least sense, calling myself lgbt or queer is the most weird feeling label on this list.
I'm too terminally online to write an actual good, well formatted post but I feel more comfortable calling myself a women then I do trans, and calling myself lgbt feels even weirder. And that seems very odd to me.
it's the opposite for me, claiming the title of woman feels like it carries a lot of the expectations of cis-womanhood, but being trans or queer lessens these, atleast in my mind.
Labels are just that, labels. Use what you feel the most comfortable with or what would describe you best. You can change these later if need be
For example I would have described myself as transfem 5 years ago but not so much now. I present femme mostly but I am an enby because of how I feel about myself and how I view the world. I wear what want and take whatever form I feel like.. I'm inherently queer also but nobody is going to force you to identify as something you don't like to identify as either.
Try not to worry too much , plenty of time to work things out
I've always felt queer, as in different from the cis norm, all the way back in the 80s. I only found out about trans a bit later.. but I've never felt cis for the majority of my life.
I've long considered myself LGBTQ+ adjacent even though I thought I was an allocishet just because I grew up involved in the LGBT+ community (parents are lesbians and they took us to local LGBT+ family events as children). Weirdly, when I realized I wasn't exactly allo, it felt more weird considering myself LGBT+? I think partly because I already sorta thought of myself as being LGBT+, so I didn't feel more LGBT+ and the lack of a change made me feel less like I was less part of that group? IDK how brain works.
After realizing I wasn't cis, I've changed to thinking of myself more explicitly as LGBT+ and queer. But I generally avoid more specific labels with regards to my gender, but I'd say trans, NB, agender, and transfem are all probably labels I'd at least partially use, but I think "queer" is my favorite label currently.
Ranking labels by how comfortable I feel applying them to myself
Future woman, very comfortable.
Woman, depends on the moment. Right now it feels weird but sometimes is very comforting.
Lesbian, actually feels really comfortable. I suppose that makes sense, if I'm a woman I'm definitely attracted only to other women.
Trans, What might make less sense is it feels more weird to call myself trans. I know that if I'm a woman, I must be a trans one, but it still feels very weird.
lgbt/queer, And finally, possibly making the least sense, calling myself lgbt or queer is the most weird feeling label on this list.
I'm too terminally online to write an actual good, well formatted post but I feel more comfortable calling myself a women then I do trans, and calling myself lgbt feels even weirder. And that seems very odd to me.
it's the opposite for me, claiming the title of woman feels like it carries a lot of the expectations of cis-womanhood, but being trans or queer lessens these, atleast in my mind.
That actually helps a lot. Maybe you can get gender therapy from Hexbear...
Labels are just that, labels. Use what you feel the most comfortable with or what would describe you best. You can change these later if need be
For example I would have described myself as transfem 5 years ago but not so much now. I present femme mostly but I am an enby because of how I feel about myself and how I view the world. I wear what want and take whatever form I feel like.. I'm inherently queer also but nobody is going to force you to identify as something you don't like to identify as either.
Try not to worry too much , plenty of time to work things out
I know, and I try to not stress about them too much. Honestly all labels feel weird and that feels weird. I just want to be cute
I've always felt queer, as in different from the cis norm, all the way back in the 80s. I only found out about trans a bit later.. but I've never felt cis for the majority of my life.
Use the ones that make you most comfy
It slaps ngl
I've long considered myself LGBTQ+ adjacent even though I thought I was an allocishet just because I grew up involved in the LGBT+ community (parents are lesbians and they took us to local LGBT+ family events as children). Weirdly, when I realized I wasn't exactly allo, it felt more weird considering myself LGBT+? I think partly because I already sorta thought of myself as being LGBT+, so I didn't feel more LGBT+ and the lack of a change made me feel less like I was less part of that group? IDK how brain works.
After realizing I wasn't cis, I've changed to thinking of myself more explicitly as LGBT+ and queer. But I generally avoid more specific labels with regards to my gender, but I'd say trans, NB, agender, and transfem are all probably labels I'd at least partially use, but I think "queer" is my favorite label currently.