or is that being subconsciously reserved for the transgender men and women who get clocked

this is my overwhelming experience with any group that doesnt have trans leadership. It reached the point where some cis woman turned to me and my partner, looked at us for half a second and said "we should do introductions, with pronouns". Mind you, I had shaken hands with everybody about two hours ago.

The consequence from this obv isnt that passology is good, lol. This whole thing sounds super heated to me and people seem to extrapolate the other side having the worst possible assumptions and beliefs from every statement to score cheap dunks and feel good.