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  • Yor [she/her]
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    5 months ago

    kind of curious if the timeline of baby trans to trans elder is more influenced by time spent transitioning, hitting transition goals, or both thonk-trans

    • kristina [she/her]M
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      5 months ago

      Tbh its more of a state of being. Like if you are a major nexus for information dissemination you've become one

      I've been in the community and transitioned for well over ten years but I haven't gotten all the surgeries I want

      I'm a gigantic old-head though I got my trans info originally from a lady who had been transitioned for like 50 years in an irc that had like only ten people in it.

      • Yor [she/her]
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        5 months ago

        transitioned for 50 years is wild. shout out to her

        • kristina [she/her]M
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          5 months ago

          Yeah I hope she's still kicking ass, saved my dysphoria from getting way worse

        • Babs [she/her]
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          5 months ago

          It's so eye-opening hearing about the shit our foremothers had to go through to get treatment. I thought RLE was bad, but damn we have gone such a long way in advocating for ourselves!

      • Eco [she/her, he/him]
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        5 months ago

        in an lgbt support group i was in, there was a woman in her late 70s who had transitioned back in the 1980s. endless respect for her tbh

        she was a lot of help for me early on, seeing a trans elder happy and just living life

    • Yor [she/her]
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      5 months ago

      I've been thinking about this since how I described my transition timeline feels all messed up now lol

      it's become: 3 years of HRT/transition --> [two years of chaos post surgery] --> now in an era that should have been entering post transition, but I'm right back to the middle era again

      that whiplash and justification for why I feel this way after 5 years transitioning is awkward to describe to people. I've met some new people recently and had to figure out how to navigate these conversations. I feel like I relate a lot to people earlier in their transition once again. weird vibes

      • Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's]
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        5 months ago

        yeah I just feel like a baby trans even tho I've known I was trans for years and years and have taken some amount of hrt during that time.
        Like I've been "in the community" (atleast online) longer than a lot of people have had their eggs cracked for, but they feel like they are farther along than me.

        • Yor [she/her]
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          5 months ago

          even knowing that all transitions are ~ v a l i d 🌈✨ ~ regardless of how long it takes, it's hard not to compare myself to others smh kril-stare

          it'll all work out in time, for both of us I'm sure, but in the meantime it's frustrating

    • magi [null/void]M
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      5 months ago

      I'm an elder in so far I'm close to a decade since starting hrt but i've known since I was around age 8 and I'm currently in limbo for a few more years at least.. I've been around the community in some capacity almost 13 years at this point. I've known some who transitioned start to finish and left in that time too..

    • Babs [she/her]
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      5 months ago

      I think it's a community thing as well as an experience thing. Very contextual.

      When I'm in a trans community of young people, I'm often the old lady who came out back when these whippersnappers were in elementary school. I have some knowledge and experience that can be helpful.

      When I'm hanging out with cool old ladies at irl events who came out in the 90s, or my peers who came out in the 2000s, I definitely do not have that status.

      Sometimes I withdraw from Trans Society, and then I'm just an old trans woman who has been out for a long time - it wouldn't feel right to call myself an "elder", even if I would be that in many contexts.

    • EllenKelly [comrade/them]M
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      5 months ago

      By the time i found a community i was already an elder lol, i did all my embarrassing babyqueer shit in private for the most part, shockingly lonely. Wish I'd had more guidance from people that werent strangers offering bad advice online.