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  • magi [null/void]M
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    2 months ago

    It depends for me, I can mix it up a little but I tend to gravitate to black lol. I get too warm too but I shop for breathable fabrics which helps a lot too, thinner clothes work better in the heat in the Summer even if they're black. Skirts help and I love stockings too. I was born a month premature so I am strange shaped through that and I have a short ribcage and other weird things going on genetically but alas.

    I just wear what i want really, I have some idea on styles and such but I tend to just wear what is comfortable too, I don't keep up to date with modern trends and such, I just know certain styles of shirts or skirts etc.

    how do i internalize this

    Keep saying it to yourself when you start to worry. If you observe people when out, you'll notice they'll just go about doing their own thing without really looking around them at other people, rarely do you get people observing the people they're more looking at the shelves and such.

    I take sweat over the sun lol I also love the colder weather to the point where I can wear thin leggings in -20C weather and not have it affect me. I used to sleep with my window open in the winter too lol

    • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]
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      2 months ago

      It depends for me, I can mix it up a little but I tend to gravitate to black lol

      it goes with everything! it gives nice contrast with my skin tone! it's slimming! it makes me look slightly mysterious! i agree, although i also have a fondness for coloured tights, you'll probably just catch me wearing dark fall colours with those though.

      Keep saying it to yourself when you start to worry. If you observe people when out, you'll notice they'll just go about doing their own thing without really looking around them at other people, rarely do you get people observing the people they're more looking at the shelves and such.

      would you believe i'm 15 years into transition, have a job where i need to be extremely social, and yet still haven't solved this problem? i will try your approach! (I observe people a LOT, i am unfortunately prone to staring...)

      I take sweat over the sun lol I also love the colder weather to the point where I can wear thin leggings in -20C weather and not have it affect me. I used to sleep with my window open in the winter too lol

      YES i love winter, although i do have to bundle up for it, i'd rather be cold than hot since i can always put on more clothes and be cozier, but in summer i feel less cozy with bare skin

      • magi [null/void]M
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        2 months ago

        I sometimes mix in a little bit of colour too just to break up the black lol

        15 years into transition

        A bit ahead of me ^^

        i am unfortunately prone to staring...

        Yeah I was aware I can stare so I tend to change what I'm looking at a bit more frequently.

        YES i love winter

        Same, though I'm pretty warm blooded so I can counter the cold naturally, I'm like a radiator lol

        • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]
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          2 months ago

          I sometimes mix in a little bit of colour too just to break up the black lol

          sick yeah if you wear mostly black adding a little bit of colour really makes it pop, looks ultra-deliberate and very chic knight-nod

          Same, though I'm pretty warm blooded so I can counter the cold naturally, I'm like a radiator lol

          this seems like it would have a lot of benefits. i am totally the opposite lol i get cold so easy even in summer (maybe due to good AC or maybe cold floor?) (still love winter the best tho), and partner is warm, so i sometimes put my hands under his shirt to warm them up which he uh tolerates

          • magi [null/void]M
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            2 months ago

            yeah I tend to usr scaces and such for the colour

            My wife basically uses me as a radiator lol which I enjoy because im always roasting and I enjoy the cold feeling of cold hands or feet