(i ripped this off wikipedia real fast so sorry if it's lib)

In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it").  Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").

editorial note: I think this is a very cool story and I really love hearing it. We've been around forever and we've been doing variations of this forever. It's really beautiful


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  • ashinadash [she/her]
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    13 hours ago
    I have rotted my brain out, no cws

    Okay so like... if no physical trait or anything is inherently gendered, which is true, then surely hormones and other physical things like that can't be an aspect of gender expression...? Just looking at that written down I realise I must be missing something, but my brain is sort of dumb right now. Stop taking gabapentin and The Gender Thoughts awaken immediately shulk-vision

    • iridaniotter [she/her]
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      12 hours ago

      Well, incongruence between one's physical body and one's mental image of one's self would still exist without gender. But yes, socially constructed roles have an immense impact on people's psyche. This is already partially recognized by the mainstream transgender community through the existence of social dysphoria as a subtype of gender dysphoria.

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        12 hours ago

        But that incongruence wouldn't be (isn't) a gender matter, then?

        I wish they didn't have immense impact on the psyche yea kinda fucked up Idk. Social dysphoria...

        • iridaniotter [she/her]
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          12 hours ago

          Humans have sexual dimorphism, personal preferences, and can dissociate. You'd still have "trans" people transitioning their bodies in a post-gender world. Any specifics are hard-to-impossible to theorize about but would be great to explore in science fiction.

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        13 hours ago

        This is truly the question power-genius presentation, mainly, I would think.

        • imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her]
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          13 hours ago

          i think in like a utopian vision individual presentation/expression would basically not be entangled with gender at all, gender having been transcended and essentially discarded on a collective level. maybe there would be echoes of gendered presentations from today's time, but they would hopefully be seen merely as a style or fashion that anyone could easily adopt without second thought or judgement.

          • ashinadash [she/her]
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            13 hours ago

            Everyone presents some kind of gender, or maybe lack thereof. Quick, do no men have breasts?

              • ashinadash [she/her]
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                13 hours ago

                You didn't answer my question, but at that point one of these two people is presenting a gender outside of the binary, or at least on the other end from what their gender is.

                  • ashinadash [she/her]
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                    13 hours ago

                    What do you mean, "why?" If a cisgender man and a cisgender woman have the same gender presentation, one of them has done something not very binary gendered, or at the very least outside of their assigned gender.

                    If you want to make the argument that physical traits are inherently gendered, do it straightforwardly instead of talking around me or disengage.

                      • kristina [she/her]M
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                        9 hours ago

                        just posting to remind to keep things civil in this thread bridget-pride

                      • ashinadash [she/her]
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                        13 hours ago

                        If you really wanna get into it in good faith, presentational aspects, clothes and such, only have the genders they're given which is societally constructed. There's nothing innately "female" about ankle length skirts but they're seen as a feminine thing in the west right now. You either take that into account or decide to flout it deliberately.

                        Any human of any gender can have any physical characteristic, ergo, no physical characteristic is gendered.

                        • Tomboymoder [she/her, it/its]
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                          13 hours ago

                          There is nothing innately "female" about breasts but they're seen as a feminine thing in the west right now. You either take that into account (by binding etc.) or decide to flout it deliberately.

                          • ashinadash [she/her]
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                            13 hours ago

                            I mean, I don't think I disagree really. Breasts being seen as feminine is wrong and terrible and a cisnormative notion, so we should be getting rid of it.

                              • ashinadash [she/her]
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                                13 hours ago

                                That's sort of what I'm asking, presumably something much cooler and without baggage. I guess you could say that in our world, gender expression exists in relation to the gender binary, whether it plays within it or breaks it. If you think physical traits and characteristics have innate gender you have work to do.

                                Hit me up when we get clothes and everything else degendered, though I'm not entirely certain we should degender clothes necessarily. I don't know if it's as harmful as saying that breasts are female for instance.