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  • lilypad [she/her, null/void]
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    2 days ago
    im overwhelmed

    My friend has been so fucking weird with me and needing constant unending intense emotional support around her life and specifically around her jealousy of myself and one of our friends fucking. I keep trying to tell her that i cant be a suppirt person in this for her, but nothing changes, and i keep having the same conversation over and over and its fucking exhausting and i just want it to end. The convo isnt productive, and its sole purpose is for her to get reassurance that we wont fuck when im clear and adamant that that us stopping wont happen, because us fucking is none of her business. We all live together and she wants me to text her any time we are gonna fuck but also doesnt ever want to know about it and i keep telling her that its not appropriate or healthy for us to have that depth and style of communication and she agrees with me and then a couple days later asks for it again and we have the exact same convo all over again catgirl-disgust

    Anyway i keep asking for space and she doesnt give it to me and she gets upset and feels like im "leaving her" when i go to my room for distance and space. Im so done with this.

      • lilypad [she/her, null/void]
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        2 days ago

        Yeah, ive ended up enmeshed with someone im not even seeing and i hate it. And its all cause my parents trained me so well to not say no so i keep engaging.

        sex

        Thank you thank you ill be here until the sex stops rocking my world catgirl-smug

    • Tommasi [she/her, pup/pup's]
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      2 days ago
      spoiler

      doggirl-sweat Does the house have zero soundproofing or something so she can hear everything? Because then I guess I understand why someone might get really uncomfortable, but otherwise that's extremely weird and not appropriate behaviour.

      • lilypad [she/her, null/void]
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        2 days ago
        spoiler

        No i dont think she can hear us that well. I mean, she can probably hear the loudest of the loudest parts of what we do. But thats part of having neighbors and roommates. Idk like i grew up listening to and even falling asleep to the sound of people fucking a lot, and to me thats just part of living around people, especially in the city. So like to me if its like a sleep disturbance thing i would get it, but its literally just anytime she thinks about either of us being sexually active with anyone. And tbh she thinks about it more often than we do at this point.