because people have been discussing this lately, i think it's worth a reminder that fetishization is more than finding someone attractive. i'm a trans woman and i think i look pretty good most of the time. my partner is trans and obviously i think she's attractive. it is not transphobic to find a trans person hot or to think about or portray them in a sexual context

now to be clear: fucking trans people is not activism. it's not something that needs to be celebrated, especially because in many cases it does come with fetishization. but it's also not something that should be treated as deviant, because it isn't. and acting like it is is itself a form of transphobia