I am still very early in this whole process, and there is still a lot of self doubt, so I am reading a lot of literature on "Am I trans" and dysphoria.

One concept that people often like to propose in these ressources is the button that makes you the opposite gender, and, crucially, also makes everyone else believe that you have been that way forever.

I don't really like this, because my time as a boy/man is part of who I am. I would not be me without it, and despite all of the problems I had and have due to my gender, it is still part of who I am. I fought through all of this and worked to find out who I want to be by myself. I wouldn't wanna be cis, and I also don't want to cease being the me born out of this struggle.

  • CrimsonSage [any]
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    6 months ago

    A lot of thos sorts if questions and stuff are a holdover from a bygone Era of 10 years ago. Jokes aside things have changed so much so fast in the last decade that a lot of the legacy trans culture feels increbly archaic and wrong. This is because for a long time, for lots of reasons, there really wasn't a "trans community" within which to have large scale dialogs. A lot of this stuff wasn't meant to help other trans people, it was meant to try and justify ourselves to cis people. So yeah a lot of this stuff is just weird and bad, especially laden with transmedicalism. If you want a real laugh check out this stupid shit:

    https://www.transsexual.org/cogiati_english.html And this was for trans women to help trans women. Can you rotate a cube in your head comrade? Lol

    • DerEwigeAtheist [she/her, comrade/them]
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      6 months ago

      Thank you. That test is absurdly funny, didn't expect to get as much enjoyment out of it as I did.

      You are at a meeting. Everyone at the meeting is the same sex as you. The leader of the meeting announces that it's time for hugs all around! How do you feel about this?

      I would hate this

      You are parking your car. You must reverse into a somewhat narrow space to park. What do you do?

      Is this implying that driving skills are related to gender identity?

      • CrimsonSage [any]
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        6 months ago

        Yeah because only male brains have spacial reasoning dontcha know! Pink lady brains can't do hard stuff like math or imagining cubes. Like this shit was what us closeted messes were interacting with back in 1999. And I must emphasize, this was 100% serious and meant to help trans women.

        • DerEwigeAtheist [she/her, comrade/them]
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          6 months ago

          The sincerety and care shows, there is probably a lot of effort put into this. I can appreciate it for that. It is still very funny though. I like the question on HRT, like at that point the case seems pretty clear, especially if one managed to clesr the barriers that probably existed in the 90s. trans-heart

        • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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          6 months ago

          Wait I thought that if you could rotate the cube it meant you were trans though. I'm pretty sure us trans girls are the best mental cube rotators, that's why they banned us from competition

    • Cromalin [she/her]M
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      6 months ago

      god this is funny

      i was a category 4 transexual, i assume because i am autistic and have a hard time remembering people and that's feminine

      • What_Religion_R_They [none/use name]
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        6 months ago

        category 4 transexual

        "Your gender issues are real, and should not be ignored. Neither should you rush into acting on them"

        me on diy hrt side-eye-1

      • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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        6 months ago

        Lol I also got category 4. My friend, who is definitely more trans than ne got androgenyne or something and I think it kinda messed with her. She was too good at math and parking deeper-sadness

    • Dessa [she/her]
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      6 months ago

      Tests like this almost certainly delayed my transition. Shit has changed so quickly