Not everyone who is a gender conforming gay person gives a shit about conforming to anything like what the fuck are you talking about.
Like at least personally I very strongly associate with certain aspects of masculinity for myself, but that has jack shit to do with how I feel about other people. Most of the guys I've dated have been more feminine acting then me, and I never gave a shit what others thought.
I've never been one for online gay communities as there's too much recycling of content, but making some gay friends who are more like me has kinda been an important thing in terms of self acceptance. I understand why people are attracted to those spaces and terms when people struggle to see themselves within mainstream gay culture.
I don’t act stereotypically gay either but I think it’s pretty obvious OP is talking about gay dudes who aggressively perform masculinity and deride feminine gays specifically appeal to straight, homophobic, sexist dudes. Not because they just naturally align with traditionally masculine traits. People like that definitely exist.
If OP had meant that, then that's what they would've said. Instead they're implying that anyone who is gay and gender conforming is only that way because they're the thing your describing.
I've seen people do this shit before, and it's gross and invalidating to huge numbers of gay people who also aren't in any way reactionary towards other gay people.
I’m sorry if people have treated you like that before but everyone else here seems to have gotten the context of the post just fine. I get the impulse but there’s absolutely nothing in Cumwaffles post that’s specifically conflating masculine gays with the dudebro homophobic gays. She probably would have specified masculine gays if that’s what she meant.
It’s the difference between “bros” and masculine guys in general. Maybe it isn’t really a thing outside of parts of the USA but “bro culture” is specifically referring to a highly performative, chuddy, jock-ish, and aggressively masculine group of guys. Think college frats. Gay Bros are just an extension of that.
Yeah this is still where my discontent with the whole thing lies. You can be gay and be in a frat, and bring more feminine guys the frat events as dates, and defend them if members of your frat or other frats talk shit like I've done multiple times in the past.
I gained a lot from being in a fraternity, although my experience is probably still different than others given that my frat was relatively leftist (powerful Bernie bro energy circa late 2015).
I’m not talking about literally every frat and every person in one. It’s a stereotype that definitely exists. That’s what the Gay Bro thing is referencing from.
Yeah I'm not angry at what you're saying, I'm just generally bothered that I get lumped in with shitty people when I'm just living as my authentic self.
Not everyone who is a gender conforming gay person gives a shit about conforming to anything like what the fuck are you talking about.
Like at least personally I very strongly associate with certain aspects of masculinity for myself, but that has jack shit to do with how I feel about other people. Most of the guys I've dated have been more feminine acting then me, and I never gave a shit what others thought.
I've never been one for online gay communities as there's too much recycling of content, but making some gay friends who are more like me has kinda been an important thing in terms of self acceptance. I understand why people are attracted to those spaces and terms when people struggle to see themselves within mainstream gay culture.
I don’t act stereotypically gay either but I think it’s pretty obvious OP is talking about gay dudes who aggressively perform masculinity and deride feminine gays specifically appeal to straight, homophobic, sexist dudes. Not because they just naturally align with traditionally masculine traits. People like that definitely exist.
If OP had meant that, then that's what they would've said. Instead they're implying that anyone who is gay and gender conforming is only that way because they're the thing your describing.
I've seen people do this shit before, and it's gross and invalidating to huge numbers of gay people who also aren't in any way reactionary towards other gay people.
I’m sorry if people have treated you like that before but everyone else here seems to have gotten the context of the post just fine. I get the impulse but there’s absolutely nothing in Cumwaffles post that’s specifically conflating masculine gays with the dudebro homophobic gays. She probably would have specified masculine gays if that’s what she meant.
What are "gay bros" other than masculine gays, I really don't see the difference.
It’s the difference between “bros” and masculine guys in general. Maybe it isn’t really a thing outside of parts of the USA but “bro culture” is specifically referring to a highly performative, chuddy, jock-ish, and aggressively masculine group of guys. Think college frats. Gay Bros are just an extension of that.
Yeah this is still where my discontent with the whole thing lies. You can be gay and be in a frat, and bring more feminine guys the frat events as dates, and defend them if members of your frat or other frats talk shit like I've done multiple times in the past.
I gained a lot from being in a fraternity, although my experience is probably still different than others given that my frat was relatively leftist (powerful Bernie bro energy circa late 2015).
I’m not talking about literally every frat and every person in one. It’s a stereotype that definitely exists. That’s what the Gay Bro thing is referencing from.
Yeah I'm not angry at what you're saying, I'm just generally bothered that I get lumped in with shitty people when I'm just living as my authentic self.
i did indeed only mean the toxic assholes, i have nothing against masculinity, im sorry for upsetting you