• wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    Something I do when talking to people is the "soft disagree" (a term i just now coined). If someone starts talking about some bullshit, I try to agree with as much as I can (i.e. yes Democrats do suck, etc,) and then disagree with a sort of "well MAYBE that's the case BUT". I'm not sure if this helps but here it is.

    • Nakoichi [they/them]
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      3 years ago

      That reminds me of a management technique taught in retail and middle management office jobs: praise, criticize, praise.

      You did X well but here's something that needs to be done differently, but also we appreciate Y.

      Also I'm hopeful because this person seems to look up to me even though he's very new, I guess I give off a vibe of "person to aspire to" despite not having my own shit together in the slightest.

      • anaesidemus [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        This sandwich approach can often come off as fake, if you really have to give someone criticism on something important it can be good to have a quick face to face meeting where you outline the problem, listen to possible causes and ask for suggestions for improvement with some followup later.

        It turns out that being sincere and actually caring about people is the best way to manage people.