Basically title. A ton of things in life being going badly. Aside from well...the outside world, life’s just been a slog. Broke up with my significant other, lost a family member, and I got into an argument with a sibling about how I need to moderate my political views and not be so outspoken on things (just shut up and don’t try to change things). Been getting me down and I feel myself falling into depression. Just needed to get that out and I’m just wondering: How do y’all make it through these days?

  • LangdonAlger [any]
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    4 years ago

    i've nearly 100% cut out twitter and reddit usage this week. i feel guilty for tuning out of protest news, esp cuz i'm in a major city, but i can't participate for reasons. i only post here and places related to my hobbies. my mental health has been much better. going offline, exercise, video games, and weed have made me feel okay. there's guilt and helplessness, but they were there already. i don't know if this will help you, maybe i'm typing it for myself, but i hope it helps. solidarity.

    • Healthcare_pls [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Sometimes we gotta recharge , we can’t change the world by ourselves. Maybe we both need to take a break so we can come back ready for the fight ahead

  • Mardoniush [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    Try and find some comrades in rl, if you can. It helps.

    Also grill pill a little, do the things that matter to you. Preferably physical things. Cook, sew, build a thing, go hiking, do a sportsball.

    If those don't work, don't be afraid to see some help if you can. We need our comrades fit for the fight.

  • Awoo [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    I turned my depression into a burning rage that fuels my commitment to fighting every single day.

    • Healthcare_pls [he/him]
      hexagon
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      4 years ago

      Fair enough, that’s basically how I’m running now but it gets exhausting. How do you keep doing it?

      • Awoo [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        My dad is currently dying of cancer, I've had to watch him slowly deteriorate for months. Despite the fact that we have a terrible relationship I still feel... Angry. Deeply angry. He's a man that has worked and done pretty much nothing but work his whole life. All he has to show for it is some property that really doesn't matter. His time should have been spent on him and things that really matter to him, not on filling someone else's pockets with millions.

        I don't think I will ever be exhausted. I don't think this experience and the rage I have over this will ever go away. I want to fix it, even for a man I really do not like. I look at him and the pain of people around him and it's just not fair, it's not right, and I will absolutely spend my entire life working to change it.

        If I ever need to I will just tap into this emotion again forever.

        I'm sorry this doesn't really help you if you don't have some sort of similar experience to draw from but for me it's an almost limitless pool that I can dip into.

        • Healthcare_pls [he/him]
          hexagon
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          4 years ago

          Oh damn I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope that in your anger you can find peace, comrade.

          • Awoo [she/her]
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            4 years ago

            A trip to any beach is usually good for that. Watching and listening to the tide feels a world apart from everything else. I end up using it as a reminder of exactly what I fight for though, for people to be able to do that more.

            • qublic69 [none/use name]
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              4 years ago

              I end up using it as a reminder of exactly what I fight for

              yeah that's the most important part for me, knowing that there is a life worth fighting for.

            • Healthcare_pls [he/him]
              hexagon
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              4 years ago

              Coincidentally I’m actually going to the beach with the fam. Will suck up all the sea air I can and post it at you

              • Awoo [she/her]
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                Make sure you get 5 minutes alone to just absorb some of that sweet Sonder you can get from it. I get this feeling in a few places, big views of cities, by the ocean, bonfires/campfires, fireworks, etc. I think it's very important.

  • cpfhornet [she/her,comrade/them]
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    I think we're all feeling a descent into madness further and further each day. These are extremely difficult and alienating times. If you haven't already, I'd encourage you to seek out an org/party, you need to be able to be yourself and speak freely, and unfortunately we're not to the point where most people in our lives are able to come to terms with the world changing rapidly before our eyes. Organizing with like-minded and similarly alienated people will give you purpose and sanity.

    Apart from that, I'm speaking from relative privilege, but what keeps me going is a morbid fascination with our time, we are right in the middle of a pivotal moment in human history, in which we choose either socialism and humanism or we choose barbarism and potential extinction. There is no other time I would wish to be born in, other than perhaps 30 years later. I hope we live to see humanity in society. It seems like a stretch, but the mere hope is enough to keep me going day to day. This is our time, and only together can we liberate ourselves from hell by going deep to the heart of it.

      • cpfhornet [she/her,comrade/them]
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        4 years ago

        We're in more places than we'd think. We're in for tough times and I wouldn't advise totally broadcasting full communism on your main social media feeds, but look out for the friends that post chapo-like content. Meet up, and meet up with their connections. This is how we build.

    • Healthcare_pls [he/him]
      hexagon
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      4 years ago

      I appreciate you talking about it. Maybe I also need to find a happy place

  • Terkrockerfeller [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    volcel vangaurd's gonna have me merced for this but doing a cum usually helps for a good while

  • FUCKTHEPAINTUP [any]
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    4 years ago

    Putting space between myself and the world mentally and physically (weed + low intensity cardio + self isolating in nature for a while)

    Sometimes I just need a while to emotionally process things in the background, so things like hiking or outdoor activities force me to focus on my body and movements and fulfilling basic tasks like drinking water and picking music. Just changing up your visual environment does a lot for your mindset.

    Do some fun shit, too. Eat candy or ice cream or whatever. It’s always going to be kind of a slog, but it can subjectively be a more fun slog.

  • Provastian_Jackson [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    I been put on wellbutrin and I feel much better. I also quit kratom so maybe it had something to do with that. Either way, much better.

    Nobody online can give advice that you'd take imo because depression is such a trap, except buy a $20 ABC dry fire extinguisher. And postpostpost on chapochat

  • volkvulture [none/use name]
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    4 years ago

    things may get worse before they get better,

    but working & hoping for a better world are far more valuable if you are here working and hoping alongside everyone too!