I feel like she used to be a darling of the old sub, but that seems to have stopped at some point and I now rarely see her mentioned.

    • Good_Username [they/them,e/em/eir]
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      4 years ago

      Something else to think about: even if it is true that every trans person has dysphoria (which, to be clear, I don't think is necessarily true, although I would claim that the vast majority of us do have dysphoria), it's sometimes really hard to recognize that what you're experiencing is dysphoria. So saying you don't need dysphoria to be trans can help questioning people be open to the idea that they may be trans even if they don't think they have dysphoria.

      I know this was the case for me; 3 years ago if someone had asked me if I felt dysphoria, I would have said no. But now I'm 3 months post top surgery and I've been on hormones for nearly a year. I had dysphoria all along, but I never would have recognized it if I hadn't allowed myself to think "hmm, maybe I'm trans, even though I don't have dysphoria".

    • TemporalMembrane [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      Like a fish doesn't know it's swimming in water, some trans people don't feel dysphoria as intense as suicidal ideation or as something exceptional to everyday life. But (almost) all feel a sense of euphoria when their gender is recognized or when they can "perform" their gender by wearing appropriate clothes and so on.

      It's not easy to know you're trans if you just kind of get on with life. Some people don't realize it until they're well into their senior years (like 70 yo AMAB fresh trans queens). But there are signs, do you just kinda put on whatever clothes and don't think about it? Do you often fantasize about being a different gender then the one you were assigned at birth? Do you play a lot of characters in DnD or games that are a different gender? Y'know, stuff like that.

      • quartz [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        This is a good analogy, actually. It's not like trans people naturally kill themselves, that's societal. I'm not sure a world where everyone knows women can be amab would make us hate our bodies as much. I think there'd be a lot less angst and pain about it.