Hi fellow chapocels. The world is hot garbage and we still don't have a menslib or mental health sub where we can vent about mental health shit specifically. I know mods are too busy bashing the fash in the streets so until we get appropriate subs, I was thinking that we can do sadposting on main. If there's enough interest, we can post it weekly. I can post it on Mondays around 23h Moscow time so we can all vent after a long day at the posting factory. Mods please pin the thread.

So anyway, let's try it out. How is everyone? How are you doing lately? How do you cope with the fact that the world is hot garbagetrash?

  • Nakoichi [they/them]
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    4 years ago

    On leave till I get a psych evaluation because I had two panic attacks in two days and my bosses would rather think it's a me problem and not the fact they have left us critically understaffed for years because line is okay.

  • Koa_lala [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    Lately I'm so damn angry. It really gets to me. I fucking hate this country and the people so fucking much. I can't watch news or read the comments because I will ruin my own day.

    I feel the only people I can level with are other leftists. It feels really isolating and frustrating. I won't compromise on my believes. Our society is simply lunatic in so many ways I can't pretend it's okay. It's like I took a giant blackpill.

  • LangdonAlger [any]
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    4 years ago

    Miserable and don't feel like I have anyone to talk to about my feelings. Sucks. Rest of my life doesn't have anything real to complain about (stable, healthy, employed, etc) so the guilt tells me to shut up and take it.

    • Nakoichi [they/them]
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      4 years ago

      You always have us, I know it's not the same as face to face conversation but hit me up if you want to talk. I was in exactly the same position and it led me to having panic attacks at work.

    • Not_irony [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Same. Flipping back and forth between feeling guilty for having it okay, and feeling grateful that I do. Also trying to enjoy the good ol days.

  • weirddodgestratus [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    I'm tired all the time, I've got a million things I need to do but zero motivation to do them, none of my hobbies bring the happiness they used to, I live in an extremely rural area where I know barely anyone, two of my only online friends just outed themselves as blue lives matter trump voters, and my dog that I've had since he was a puppy is 13 years old and his health is failing. the psychiatrist prescribed me some anti-depressants but I don't think I can medicate away my pure existential despair.

  • Terkrockerfeller [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    Oh, You Know

    Been wanting to bring up my Gender Stuff with my mom for a while but every time I feel like maybe mentioning it she's drunk off her ass (which is almost every evening) and it's impossible to talk to her when she's in such a state so IDK why I even bother

    Also my cat's losing weight again so I'm gonna have to take him back to the vet to see what's up :(

      • Terkrockerfeller [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        She knows I have Something on my mind I wanna talk to her about, but there are times where she isn't drunk but I just don't feel like talking to her for other reasons. Everything kinda has to line up just right

  • PouncySilverkitten [none/use name]
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    4 years ago

    Having a bad time with relationship issues, which sends me spinning back into fantasies of self-harm and eating disorder behaviors. Haven’t seen a therapist in years, which is obviously not for the best. I’m not even sure how to make an appointment with covid going on. It kind of feels like I’ve been putting on a brave/normal face for the last few years and now that there’s conflict, I can’t quite sustain it anymore.

    • AsleepInspector
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      4 years ago

      Look it up at the most basic for your state and see how sign-ups work. Telehealth has made this shit more accessible. Wishing you the best. :sankara-salute:

      • PouncySilverkitten [none/use name]
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        4 years ago

        Thanks. I checked and happily it looks like the lady I used to see years ago is still practicing, so now I need to figure out if I can make an appointment.

  • Zuzak [fae/faer, she/her]
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    4 years ago

    I gotta say it, quarantining has me thirsty af. Like normally I'm happily single and I'm lazy and shy and I don't really care enough to put myself out there. (I should note that I don't "have" to be quarantining since I haven't been exposed and aren't particularly vulnerable to it - but it seems like the responsible thing to do since things keep getting worse and I'm uninsured.) But whether it's not getting as much contact with my friends, or having way too much free time, or feeling like I don't have the option, or the fact that some of my friends are moving and I might be too, or general anxiety about the world, idk now that I list everything it's kinda a perfect storm. Just craving that contact and closeness, and I don't think there's much I can do about it.

    Bleh ok enough about that just needed it off my chest.

  • moonlake [he/him]
    hexagon
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    4 years ago

    I haven't been doing well lately. August has been a shit month in a shit year. I've been doing everything I can for the last three years to avoid falling back into a depressive episode. Summer is always tough for me, hopefully I'll feel better in autumn.

    • AsleepInspector
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      4 years ago

      Hope sweater weather warms your heart some, comrade.

      • moonlake [he/him]
        hexagon
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        4 years ago

        Thank you, comrade! Wishing you a good autumn as well.

    • lizbo [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      Summer is always the worst for me mental health wise too. I always look forward to fall so much. Hopefully the colder weather brings us both some peace of mind.

      • moonlake [he/him]
        hexagon
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        4 years ago

        Hey, we survived another summer! May autumn give us the well-being we deserve.

        • lizbo [she/her]
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          4 years ago

          Funny enough, just like clockwork, things are cooling down as fall is coming around and I swear I'm feeling a lot better! I don't understand why but I'll take what I can get that's for sure.

  • AsleepInspector
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    4 years ago

    I'm trying to quit AM drinking. I gave myself Labor Day before I hop on the wagon and try to do better to my body. I barely drink for anything but homeostasis at this point, and need to reset my BAC so it isn't... Wrong. I believe I'm not a full blown alchy, but I need to fucking prove it. And every time I do prove it for however long, I slingshot back so hard into a binge-streak again.

  • poopbuttcummy [any]
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    4 years ago

    i need to put myself out there more. how do you meet new people without banging them? outside of like fucking work

  • Straight_Depth [they/them]
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    4 years ago

    Work wants to fire me for some bullshit lack of rapidity and bureacratic red tape box-ticking exercises, which would leave me homeless and starving as I'm in a very specialized job withnext to zero transferrable skills and very few places offering me the same role. I'm worried and anxious every day, I can't get any useful help, I'm now in an extremely hostile work environment, my parents/friends that could help me are literally in a different country, what little saving I have will likely be nuked instantly. I have no motivation to do anything but sulk, worry, and think about how to kill myself in the most spectacular way possible.

    I have zero coping mechanisms and the only thing I enjoy is nothing. My hobbies are now too much effort and I can barely do anything beyong youtube and lurking social media.

    • lizbo [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      I know I'm a few days late on this thread but I just wanted to say I'm sorry things are so shit. In this world you can do everything right and still end up in getting fucked over. It sucks people in general aren't more compassionate but remember that we are always here for you comrade.