Why do they have to make it so hard to be a human being. I just want to live in a community and have a job that is halfway fulfilling and have a girlfriend
But no we all need to be miserable all the fucking time
Honestly 30s are better than your 20s. In my 20s I had a lot of anxiety about myself, my worth, and who I was.
By my 30s I think I had really proved to myself that I was worth something, and was more at peace with who I was, and also just generally more established so I didn't care what other people thought of me.
Yeah same. 30s are better than 20s. More self confidence. Better pay. People finally give up asking you when you're going to have kids.
I'm 25 now and I'm trying to sort my shit out but I'm afraid I'm doomed no matter what. If you don't have a stable foundation in your teens (and I didn't), your 20's are going to suck hard.
I feel like I'm a similar position, especially the part about the stable foundation. It's like my mental and social state is what should've been when I was 18 or 19, but I'm 25. I'm also feeling doomed. I'm trying to hype myself up by saying that at least I'm in a position to enjoy the rest of my youth, but it's hard with people becoming increasingly unavailable due to jobs and long term relationships.
i guess i was lucky in that i enjoyed my childhood
i knew that it was never going to be as good as it was even while i was a kid so I dreaded growing up, and i was completely right
My 30s are better than my 20s. The latter I spent in the wake of the 2008 crash moving from one underemployment situation to another.
It's never too late to get your shit together! Join us at c/self_improvement and let's start kicking ass together
I'm literally the most active person I know. That's the worst part. Despite having days of feeling like shit I'm still doing a lot. Maybe those days are just vents for all the negative energy I've got too accumulate.
Sometimes it helps to write annual retrospectives, just going through all the stuff you did that year (looking at photos helps). I thought I had totally wasted 2023 but when I wrote my annual retrospective I really couldn't draw out the impression of a wasted year. I did a lot!
That's a good idea, I also recommend journaling. Along with meditation, it's the best habit that you can develop.
Wage slavery often feels like you're running in a hamster wheel but if you're journaling, you can read your entries from a year ago and see how much progress you've made.
I think it's possible to do everything you're supposed to and still feel like shit. That's because the problem is not in you, it's in the hellworld. The problem is systemic, so no amount of individual action can solve it. I think we should try our best but accept that life is still gonna be garbage sometimes (or most of the time lol)
My 20s were kinda solid, but certainly limited by money and a lack of job opportunities. I wanted to travel the world, or at least the US. Still, I had fun where I could.
My 30s have been markedly better than my 20s and I'm not even halfway through them
Sometimes I beat myself up about squandering opportunities in high school and college but then I remember all the shit I got to do while focusing on my bands and I do not regret that shit one bit. I didn’t realize how unusual it was to have social hobby experiences outside of adult-planned-and-chaperoned extracurriculars. I got myself into some situations that could have easily gone way worse but it was a good time.
