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as someone with ptsd this shit makes my skin crawl. she is being used, she likely knows it, and has decided to try to milk it in order to stave off the beast via money. it doesnt help that society expects you to have the perfect amount of sadness and the perfect amount of 'not feeling sorry for yourself / overtraumatization' and expects you to put that on display for them at all times, otherwise you are faking it. combine that with being young and being traumatized in formative years and you have a recipe for disaster
no fun at all, this post is pain
Especially for women, too little vulnerability is seen as "frigid" or (misogynist slurs), and too much vulnerability is seen as "hysterical" or (misogynist slurs). :debord-tired:
unironically i do feel like i 'fake it' because i have to modulate so much in order for even doctors to take me seriously about an event that undeniably happened and has records for hospital visits. i hate having to tone myself down or tone myself up when im freaking out. lets not even get into the psychological impact of feeling like you have imposter syndrome over extreme violence being inflicted on you
A lot of that "faking" may well be disassociation, where it's a real feeling that isn't quite "felt" at a cognitive level all the while even while it's there. I don't know your situation or what resources you have available, but emotions can get really weird and hard to place, especially after trauma. :meow-hug:
oh yeah the disassociation is really up there and is multifaceted. my brain is swiss cheese, i have resigned my life to bimbodom :ohnoes:
death to johnson and johnson, or which ever ghouls make this shit idk.
also pore strips are bad for your skin. it's normal to have visible pores on your nose, and absent any cysts or infections, repeatedly clearing them out and drenching your face in salicylic acid and shit like that is going to make things worse.
i'm not a skincare genius or dermatologist or whatever, but frankly it seems like most of what people are encouraged to practice as "skincare" is stripping the skin of protective mechanisms so that it makes the skin look new/young, and that probably anything beyond rubbing your face clean with water is likely working against your skin's attempt to protect itself from actual elemental damage.
like every time there's some demonstration of what some product does, it's always like making the skin swollen (remove wrinkles) or as you say, stripping away oils, scraping away skin cells, shaving away protective hairs, creating entry points for pathogens and elemental damage. i have never thought of soft, wrinkled faces as unattractive on anyone. they're just old and frankly interesting.
like, i get that we don't want to look like mud people to each other, but at a certain point of grooming, the idea of what constitutes healthy / "good looking" skin should not be left up to the $100 billion dollar skincare industry and should have some connection to its evolutionary, functional purpose. because this shit is as bad as footbinding sometimes.
like, i get that we don’t want to look like mud people to each other
That'll change the minute my terracottacore product line launches
this shit is as bad as footbinding sometimes
Based on this and the rest of your post, you might be interested in the whole barefoot movement (if you can call it that). It is really unhealthy to wear thick-soled, supported shoes 24/7. It is a lifestyle unironically propped up by Big Shoe, and I think the whole anti-shoe thing started with some book I haven't read called Born to Run. Anyway, it's liberating to feel the ground more and use my feet muscles like they're meant to be used. Theoretically your toes will also splay more naturally over time as well. I don't go fully barefoot much, but most of my footwear is "barefoot" and I don't think I could go back at this point.
:is-this: empathy?
Bioré :cap-think: what if I can make anti-depressant drug delivery strips?
