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I remember when my brother-in-law who lives in China came to visit, and my sister was like "yeah he wants to go clubbing because he couldn't date much in China" I was confused and asked why, and she said "Well... I mean... he's not interested in asian girls. You wouldn't want to date an asian guy, would you?" She got so annoyed when I replied "I dunno, I date based on personality so if I met a guy I got along with and he happened to be asian, then yes I would date him." she acted like I was lying just to be politically correct or something, but I was telling 100% the truth (my whole family is white for context)
she said "Well... I mean... he's not interested in asian girls. You wouldn't want to date an asian guy, would you?"
At first I was completely baffled by this because I thought it was a Chinese guy being spoken about.
But even without that, there are so many layers of assumption in that that it's hard to know where to start. Maybe with "Is there no difference between a Chinese native and a fully integrated Chinese diaspora in America?" Like, maybe that seems like a worse place to start than the gender aspect, but if you unpack the diaspora part the inevitable axiom it's based on is of a racial essentialism that transcends culture.
Unless she literally just means facial features or something, in which case it's stupid to lump even all Chinese people together, let alone "Asians", but some whites are just fucking obsessed with epicanthic folds I guess. Like, I can understand if there's a correlation between an ethnicity and facial features you don't prefer, but there is much more variance within these groups than between them, so there usually needs to be some serious "unconscious" racism to just say "Yeah, Han people are all ugly to me, that's a blanket 'no' to any of them as a partner".
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Yes a no Asian policy is super racist imo.
I remember when my brother-in-law who lives in China came to visit, and my sister was like "yeah he wants to go clubbing because he couldn't date much in China" I was confused and asked why, and she said "Well... I mean... he's not interested in asian girls. You wouldn't want to date an asian guy, would you?" She got so annoyed when I replied "I dunno, I date based on personality so if I met a guy I got along with and he happened to be asian, then yes I would date him." she acted like I was lying just to be politically correct or something, but I was telling 100% the truth (my whole family is white for context)
Wild. Like she can't even comprehend interracial groupings in the slightest
At first I was completely baffled by this because I thought it was a Chinese guy being spoken about.
But even without that, there are so many layers of assumption in that that it's hard to know where to start. Maybe with "Is there no difference between a Chinese native and a fully integrated Chinese diaspora in America?" Like, maybe that seems like a worse place to start than the gender aspect, but if you unpack the diaspora part the inevitable axiom it's based on is of a racial essentialism that transcends culture.
Unless she literally just means facial features or something, in which case it's stupid to lump even all Chinese people together, let alone "Asians", but some whites are just fucking obsessed with epicanthic folds I guess. Like, I can understand if there's a correlation between an ethnicity and facial features you don't prefer, but there is much more variance within these groups than between them, so there usually needs to be some serious "unconscious" racism to just say "Yeah, Han people are all ugly to me, that's a blanket 'no' to any of them as a partner".