Have any queer vibes to share? Here's your place! 
Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff.
No cishets allowed! 
My son has been so much more comfortable in public after we got him a binder. The only people still misgendering him are his grandparents
and we minimize our interactions with them anyway, so that's pretty chill.
He still hasn't picked out a new permanent name yet, but we're still a couple years out from that (or surgery options) so we have tons of time.
Things are looking good.
I am, too! It really threw my therapist for a loop when I explained that I'd always had a son, we just didn't know it yet. She's been pretty swift on the uptake, though.
I guess I can officially say that my transition is "complete" now that I've fully recovered from my orchi and don't plan on having any more surgeries, which is very fulfilling. It's kind of crazy to be on the other side of things now, 4 years ago I couldn't imagine having a life like this but now I feel like I've finally made it. So that's great.
My girlfriend and I just reached 6 months of dating which is also exciting, we have a trip into the mountains planned for the weekend and I'm very much looking forward to that. She's very puppygirl-brained so I plan on bringing the leash and dog bowl 😏
I still need to work on my self-worth issues though, I've been talking with my therapist about it but it's just feels so deeply ingrained in me that it'll probably take a looong time to get over. I sort of reflexively default to thinking no one actually cares about me, and if they do then they will change their mind when they actually get to know me, which ends up paralyzing me in a lot of social situations. Which is crazy because I've made more "real" friends lately than I have ever previously had in my lifetime, so clearly people like having me around, but still these feelings of worthlessness still persist, like I'm always waiting for everything to fall apart.
She's very puppygirl-brained so I plan on bringing the leash and dog bowl 😏
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goddamn that's fucked. that is not a conversation you should need to have with your mental health provider.
support should be the default.i hope you come back with good news too. good luck!
Getting a crush on like, every queer girl who so much as has a positive interaction with me.
I'm super imposter syndromey queer and the other day I was venting about this to some friends at a bar and a random stranger walked over and said "Nobody feels threatened by you, you aren't taking up too much space, you're welcome and safe in queer spaces". It feels hard to feel impostery now that a random stranger was basically "dude shut up you're super queer and valid."
Then they brought me a weed caramel. It felt really nice and validating. I wish all queers a very "feel valid" in this way
imposter syndrome is the absolute worst. the feedback from strangers can make quite the difference, so i hope those validating moments stick with u :)
If I can't find more trans people in my city I'm going to explode :deeper-sadness:
I feel you. I had a friend hangout planned with a trans girl in my town but they ghosted me. Now I'm feeling even more alone than before. Good luck!
Fucking m o o d
I'm in a discord for trans people at my school but it's so insular with the same few power users and I don't feel particularly welcome
For sure, I'm so awkward in person I rather get to know people online first but that's not happening there
I have no idea how else to meet up with queer people in my city though :cri:
There's Lex, they have profile pictures but it doesn't have to be of you
Although I've tired that app and had like zero luck in my area
lex has been an absolute shitshow every time i try to use it
yeah, one of my fedi mutuals has been documenting their experiences with lex over the last month or two and ngl, it has entirely put me off ever using it
It kind of sucks but I sadly don't know of any other app with the same goal
It's weird for me to be commenting in a thread like this, after so long looking into queer communities (NOTE: Did not mean communities in the hexbear sense! Just referring to my life in general—apologies for any confusion) and feeling dismayed at my exclusion for being cishet/straight. I always felt so wronged at that, but couldn't explain why. I was always told I was "one of the good ones", sensitive and emotionally intelligent. The exception, but not exceptional enough to warrant access to those spaces. Whatever, I guess I'm here now.
Seeing my therapist today which I've come to really look forward to. It's nice to be sorting out my troubles, but it's also nice to be "out" to someone without judgement. With my sister and mother, they haven't disowned me or anything but it's clear that me wanting to be a girl makes them uncomfortable despite their progressive sensibilities.
Especially annoyed that my mom stopped her brief employment of gender neutral language towards me. It wasn't perfect, more often than not she'd catch herself after the fact and correct in a very awkward way, but it was nice that she was trying. Now she just says "boy" "son" and so forth seemingly without a second thought. Does she think it was just a phase? I don't have the bandwidth to open that up with her right now, but every time it grows a little more painful to hear.
I guess I can't really blame her, I've made next to no efforts to change my appearance besides growing my hair out and styling it slightly differently. For all the world I do look like a boy, I guess. I just feel like I can't make any significant changes to my presentation until I'm living on my own. That way, I have a safe place to retreat to.
Hear you. I would just like to mention that there are plenty queer spaces which accept you. You don't have to present like anyone others idea to be you. You don't have to present any way to be queer.
Even if you are trans there is no need to be passing (which is a critically acknowledge concept anyway). I do have to say that the trans reading that was pushed on this site was a good thing to further knowledge about Trans Liberation and the struggles associated with it. Including for some that feeling of not being enough to deserve to be part of a community.
Just realized rereading my post that it might sound like I'm talking about hexbear communities, which I wasn't, just others in my life at school and friend groups
On the trans reading thing I honestly disagree. I'm a stubborn person and being told to shut up and do something "because I said so" (at least, that's how it felt) rubbed me the wrong way and made me not want to engage, which just reinforced the repression I was already doing. Maybe that's just the acceptable byproduct of getting the non-egg cishets to take their medicine, but I can't say it was at all helpful for me.
How common is it to be a gay dude who'd be okay being a woman in hypothetical situations? Asking for a friend.
I'm stepping away from the gender stuff my parents put on me years ago, and now that I don't live with them, I feel more comfortable experimenting without having to anticipate their reactions or finding things.
I guess I'm at the beginning stages of questioning and it's a strange feeling.
I hit 200 days on HRT tomorrow and I'm kinda struggling. I've read that the 6 month-1 year period can be hard and I'm really feeling it. My cis wife has been nothing but supportive but I still can't help but feel like there are some things she just can't get which just feels lonely. And not having trans friends irl makes that worse.
I'm having huge gains with my body/fave and voice and I feel like I'm passing most of the time. Passing was never my goal, but I feel guilty. Like I never served my time. Idk, just venting on here. Transitions great, social circumstance aren't.
you shouldn't feel guilty for passing. being visibly trans isn't a sentence and there's no suffering quota
I'm sad there's so many straight trans girlies here
You're valid but it's a big loss for the wlw community to not have such cuties like you in it
I would like to experiment with guys in ernest and I have no idea how to start.
Do I make up a dating profile on an app? Do I just find an LGBT club and just vibe? I am a total hick who hasn't really had a social life. What do?
Grindr sounds like by far the easiest way hearing from friends
Just throw some pics up there and people will message you
To specify, I kind of just want to do a first date and maybe a kiss and see how I feel. I know grindr is infamous for being just for hookups. As for the gay club option, I don't have abs and I have some chub so I don't exactly think going topless is the best option for me.
You can say you don't want hookups and just want to date but some guys are still gonna be gross about that on grindr.
A little but chubby and questioning are some gay dudes' biggest fantasies, you'll do fine!
If you want to do the gay club route, make sure you go topless btw, I think that's how gay men signal to each other since all the men making out and grinding on each other are usually topless
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