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  • ashinadash [she/her]
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    6 months ago
    this is a weird one, it's probably some kind of dysphoria? I guess? cw uh weird body stuff, weight discussion, mild brainworms

    Does anybody else ever feel really under-developed to the point of almost being like, neotenous??? I know this is weird as fuck.

    It's a given I guess that most adult men are like three times as wide as me, and a considerable portion of people are much taller than me too. (I know I know, "god I wish that were me", I'm sorry) But the average woman (cis or trans doesn't matter) also seems a lot more like, physically substantial than I am. It's probably the tiny noodle arms, (funny) really small cup size (lol) and perpetual ability to see my ribs because weight does not gather on my torso, but sometimes I do kind of feel like an overly tall child standing in a room of adults. My brother is way bigger a dude than I, even, and we aren't more than two years apart.

    I think some of this might partially be mtfg brainworms, 'cause I know once or twice I've seen particularly shitty trips imply that anons were "pedobait" badeline-disgust but that's not the kind of thought that enters my head about this stuff. I guess it feels like for all the changes I've affected, I still have a very similar build to when I was 17, you know? Idk if this makes any sense. I feel fuckin "underdeveloped" somehow...

    One of the big ones I guess, and maybe this is one of the last "gender envy" things I still feel: my wife's hips are like 3× as wide as mine, it's incredible. I have pretty decent proportions myself, got a lot of mileage out of redistribution and hip tilt, but my wifey's figure is bottom-heavy u feel... powercry-1 my miniscule pelvis proving no match for her power as she hip-checks me

    • Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's]
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      6 months ago

      Sometimes I’ll stand next to my sister’s boyfriends and be like “holy shit I am a shrimp compared to them” but mostly I just feel emotionally/mentally underdeveloped

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        6 months ago

        yea doesn't feel so bad bein' shrimpy when guys are the comparison point, but everything else feels weird

        Also autism, how relatable ✨

      • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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        6 months ago

        mostly I just feel emotionally/mentally underdeveloped

        The inner conflict between feeling this way but also having everyone tell you how mature you are

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          6 months ago

          having everyone tell you how mature you are

          THANKS MA'AM IT'S THE TRAUMA omori-manic

        • magi [null/void]M
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          6 months ago

          The inner conflict between feeling this way but also having everyone tell you how mature you are

          Big mood, had this a lot growing up

    • magi [null/void]M
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      6 months ago

      I am also intersex, but I got lucky with hourglass figure during puberty, years before hrt emilie-shrug

      I don't want you to feel envious tho.. Tbh I've never had gender envy either. Though autism can skew a lot of how I experience things too