It's very similar to people of colour, yeah most of the time racists aren't openly racist when other white people are around that are normal. It's when it's just you and a racist, that's when the wild shit comes out. And also, it's underappreciated by the hegemonic culture - but racism, homophobia, transphobia can be just so fantastically weird, yeah it can be scary and rude and deadly. But sometimes, you hear the weirdest out of pocket shit and then think back on it the way home and realize "wait they were being transphobic, the fuck???"
It's very similar to people of colour, yeah most of the time racists aren't openly racist when other white people are around that are normal. It's when it's just you and a racist, that's when the wild shit comes out. And also, it's underappreciated by the hegemonic culture - but racism, homophobia, transphobia can be just so fantastically weird, yeah it can be scary and rude and deadly. But sometimes, you hear the weirdest out of pocket shit and then think back on it the way home and realize "wait they were being transphobic, the fuck???"
Also the amount of people lacking in self awareness to just come out with some random vitriolic comment.
Or you get people who are usually normal then just casually drop some racist etc comment without any self reflection whatsoever
I don't have any friends but if someone did this I'd just not associate with them