As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It's for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.
Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.
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That happened to me so bad that I've just stopped coming out to people
I think that the refractory people will get shorter the more you do it. Your milage may vary, but from my experience it absolutely does.