I don't think you're an asshole or even did anything wrong, but yes it does hurt some people. Really depends on person to person but like, when you get misgendered it means you're being perceived as the wrong gender. When everyone does this every day it absolutely grinds me down and just saps all hope from me.

Like, I have to go basically sit in my room and be like, will there ever be a time when I'm not just perceived as some man in a dress or something? It does hurt. And I don't want people gendering me correctly to be some laborious process for them. I don't want people to have to try. I know it's not realistic

But also I definitely understand that it's not the fault of the people perceiving me, it's just reality.