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  • magi [null/void]M
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    4 months ago
    autism discussion

    My scores are 43 on AQ, 203 on RAADS-R and 130 on CAT-Q, I know I don't mask much as I never really learned to. I don't really have a script either, I just see what happens but conversation would tend to break down unless the other person can carry the conversation.
    I'd also find that I don't really speak unless spoken to or I find it difficult to. I have selective mutism, and always get asked if something is wrong if someone isn't used to me just being quiet.

    • Babs [she/her]
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      4 months ago

      Grew up learning that I was almost diagnosed with autism but "then you grew out of it!"

      Realized I was Actually Autistic one night after reading a Promethean: the Created fanfic before work a few years ago.

      Eventually embraced being autistic af, and revelling in how much that actually helps me in my current job serving the queer community.

      Been wondering about an adult re-diagnosis, but I'm not actually interested in services or accomodations so not sure if it's worth pursuing when all my coworkers kinda get it and I don't see any practical needs.

      • magi [null/void]M
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        4 months ago

        "then you grew out of it!"

        I've heard that one before ^^ loads of common phrases you'd get just doing some research and hearing anecdotes from people

        Autism runs in my family but I never got tested, my nephews both are though they're young

        I never had any idea, I just felt like a loner and never had any friends, but it was my wife that told me she thought I was autistic and then doing research for a few years on it was clear to me then.. just one of those where everything kind of lined up, found out I have misophonia and light sensitivity and a load of other co-morbidity lol

        Yeah I thought about being tested but I think it wouldn't be worth it in the end.

        • Babs [she/her]
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          4 months ago

          "Autism runs in my family but I never got tested, my nephews both are though they're young"

          I feel that so hard. My dad is like, super autistic in exactly all the ways I am, but it would absolutely destroy my family if I said so.

          • magi [null/void]M
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            4 months ago

            It's definitely easy to see the traits once you're aware.

            What upset me thinking back on it was I took lots of abuse growing up with my family for like sensory stuff or textures and other things to have them completely different with my nephews. I'm glad they get the help they need and accommodations.

            At least I dont have to hear the excuses anymore

        • 🎀 Seryph (She/Her)@lemmygrad.ml
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          4 months ago

          I never had any idea, I just felt like a loner and never had any friends, but it was my wife that told me she thought I was autistic and then doing research for a few years on it was clear to me then

          Honestly basically what's going on in my head rn, though rather than a wife it was my ex and a lot of my friends pointing it out to me, plus a general suspicion I've had for years on account of certain quirks I have. Also your wife is helping give me the 'tism too I guess since her posts are helpful to illuminate it for me.

          • magi [null/void]M
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            4 months ago

            I did 3 years research too so I'm well versed in a lot of neurodiverse topics lol

            But yeah I can see traits in people looking back, I didn't suspect I was autistic even with family clearly showing the signs. It only took a day or so of research for me to acknowledge that I'm autistic, I also score fairly high in the tests.

      • Babs [she/her]
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        4 months ago

        But also! I work with a lot of undiagnosed autistic people, since I work with so many trans people in general. Some people have asked me for help with getting a diagnosis and accomodations! If anyone has any insights on the process of seeking a diagnosis, or how it helps is receiving accomodations, *please please PLEASE" DM me. I work with multiple clients who might have use for this info.