I get it, so much. I’m a music teacher and gig around my local area a good bit. I take singing lessons with a trans man and often I try not to get into those thought spirals of wow I shouldn’t have to do this. A lot of our transmasculine comrades also have to do voice training to achieve they want. T does a lot of lifting, but not all of it.

Will say though, it took a long time, but once I started to really get the voice training, the pride you can take in this is the voice you want to have, not what was given to you, is simply immense. Honestly, i’m a puddle when folks tell me that I have a beautiful voice. Keep at it, be persistent and take breaks with voice training. Make it fun! A lot of times I would just belt some Phoebe Bridgers in the car and try to match her sound. You got this.

Last thing, there are very preliminary studies(from my vocal teacher) that estrogen does a physiological effect on the vocal system as it does across the body. I certainly feel that the nature of my voice has changed and not just due to voice training.