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  • khizuo [ze/zir]
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    4 months ago

    Thank you, I appreciate how understanding you all have been. Makes me feel a lot less alone in my issues.

    a little vent about a current situation that's giving me anxiety

    I've been meaning to respond to someone I met on discord for several weeks now, and every time I try I just start to panic. She's been messaging me somewhat insistently and I feel that she's not really happy with how I disappeared suddenly from our conversation one day. I have further anxiety because of how in our first phone conversation, she criticized me for interrupting her, which I did on accident because I'm autistic and have a really hard time with social cues. So I became nervous about disappointing her, and that's spiraled into this whole situation. Of course this is not fair to her, she was right to point out something I was doing that was bothering her; this is just my RSD acting up.

    • magi [null/void]M
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      4 months ago

      It's easier when you have other people who are going through similar circumstances or know about it.

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      It's difficult to respond sometimes, especially when you feel pressured into doing it. I would assume she could be worried but I know that's also not easy for you, especially if she had already scolded you before it's not going to make it easy for you to want to talk and I'm not going to try to guilt you into responding either... I cut people off sometimes especially if I'm anxious to answer or just miss cues and such so I understand.

      It's hard to know what to do, you could write a reply if you feel you can and just explain your end of things and then logoff, but I know that's difficult and I don't want to put pressure on you, I'm just suggesting an option you don't have to take it. But I do understand exactly how it feels to feel guilty for not replying too. I've had difficulty with responding to people because I've felt that pressure too..

      • khizuo [ze/zir]
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        4 months ago
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        Thank you for sharing, that helps a lot. I have a response typed up but I just need to psych myself up to open the text conversation. Hopefully I can do it at some point.

        • magi [null/void]M
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          4 months ago
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          I know that took work, good on you., no pressure take as much time as you need

          • khizuo [ze/zir]
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            4 months ago
            panic attack mentioned

            I typed it up a couple of days ago and doing it gave me a panic attack and afterwards I felt rather silly about it... so this feels very comforting, thank you.

            • magi [null/void]M
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              4 months ago
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              You did good, I'm sorry it caused a panic attack. You've done really good despite that.

              • khizuo [ze/zir]
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                4 months ago
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                thank you, I appreciated this conversation. hope u and ash are having a nice evening cat-trans

                • magi [null/void]M
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                  4 months ago
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                  Awwh you're welcone, happy to help and I hope things improve for you too and you enjoy the rest of your day. cat-trans