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  • Darth_Reagan [they/them, comrade/them]
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    4 months ago
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    I'm having similar issues, my partner has trauma and low body image so sex is difficult. It can be very frustrating that I'm attracted and horny for them like all the time, and if we ever cuddle I generally get aroused but it more often than not leads to rejection. They feel guilty for not being able to have sex casually, and I'm frustrated by my attraction often leading to nowhere. Its tough.

    • rayne [she/her]
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      4 months ago
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      It's trauma here too. And poor communication around it more specifically.

      She'll flirt and make out with me and then feel guilty when I get turned on, frustrated, and disappointed.

      I'll try to talk about it later, and she won't acknowledge anything I say. So, yesterday I asked her point blank if I should stop bringing it up. She said yes.

      Then, after I said we should break up if we can't communicate about this, she tells me it was a test :(

      I first caught her playing games like this when we first dropped acid together. Flirt, get me excited, and then test if I would respect her boundaries. I told her I felt like she was testing me and she apologized, said it was a habit.

      She doesn't seem to care how confusing this. And I'm a mixture of mad, sad, and scared.

      Feeling really alone and miss my friends and family, who all live out of state. And moving back home isn't really an option.