Because well, I am Asexual, and well.... it is incredibly rare to find another Asexual person anywhere. Not to shame people for their interests, but I am not comfortable with a lot of posts, even if they are meant to be for a joke, implying that everyone gets horny, and/or that apparent "Peak Hedonism" or whatever it's called, is about having lots of sex. Again, something I am not interested in.

I have seen no signs of any Asexual friendly spaces on this site, not even in the LGBTQIA+ Subcommunity for this site. Although I have been socially isolated by otherwise queer friendly spaces before, for "only" being Asexual.

  • grym [she/her, comrade/them]
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    10 hours ago

    I definitely think ace comrades (and aro comrades too!) should get a space or regular thread somewhere for themselves, to talk and share what they want to share.

    I guess there needs to be a minimum amount of people/interest in it, but I think even if it's not many people here it should be an option.

  • Lussy [any]
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    12 hours ago

    I do think Asexuals should get a space of their own. I don’t think the entire site should have to repress its sexuality when it’s already weirdly puritanical on that end. I also find it odd for asexuals to be incorporated into LGBTQ comm when sexuality is literally the defining criteria for the comm.

    • ThermonuclearEgg [she/her, they/them]
      ·
      12 hours ago

      I think GSM (gender and sexual minorities) is perhaps a more accurate label. The community is about being different from the cishet majority, unless you're suggesting straight trans people should be excluded too?

    • bigbrowncommie69 [any]
      ·
      8 hours ago

      Because Asexual people aren't heterosexual. Nor are they necessarily adverse to sex and sexuality. They experience and engage with sexuality differently to allosexual people. They're not just people who are sexually repressed.

      • Lussy [any]
        ·
        8 hours ago

        I didn’t say they were sexually repressed

  • pmk@lemmy.sdf.org
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    19 hours ago

    Are you looking for a space to specifically discuss asexuality, or a space about general things minus references to sex?

  • Nakoichi [they/them]
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    20 hours ago

    Not sure what you are asking. Like is there a comm where nobody ever talks about sex?

    • loathesome dongeater@lemmygrad.ml
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      edit-2
      15 hours ago

      They probably mean a place they can talk about lives and experiences of asexual folks. In a word rife by sexuals (not sure this is the correct term) being asexual could be isolating.

      • UmbraVivi [he/him, she/her]
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        13 hours ago

        idk if there's a term for this, but I assume OP feels alienated by the assumption that experiencing sexual attraction is the norm. Like heteronormativity but for sexuality in general, I suppose.

        • simpletailor [he/him]
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          12 hours ago

          Allonormativity is what you're talking about. Amatonormativity is the assumptions related to romantic attraction/relationships.

          See Chen's book Ace for a primer on asexuality https://www.angelachen.org/ace

        • loathesome dongeater@lemmygrad.ml
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          12 hours ago

          Yeah looks correct

          Allosexual, sometimes shortened to allo, is a term used to describe a person who experiences sexual attraction and does not identify as asexual.

      • VOLCEL_POLICE [it/its]B
        ·
        19 hours ago

        Show

        The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.

        نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.

        volcel-police

    • dannoffs [he/him]
      ·
      19 hours ago

      Yeah, I'm confused. This site is one of the least horny places I've ever seen on the internet.

          • VOLCEL_POLICE [it/its]B
            ·
            12 hours ago

            Show

            The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.

            نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.

            volcel-police

        • Lussy [any]
          ·
          12 hours ago

          And it’s still not that horny. You have no idea how much I can horn it up

      • TheSpectreOfGay [he/him, she/her]
        ·
        18 hours ago

        i definitely see stuff i would define as horny posting fairly often

        but the horniness level tends to be lower than it is in other places, which for me personally means it's fine bc it doesn't trigger my sex repulsion. but it's def there