don't fucking lecture me by saying that i "don't need others to validate me since i'm already a woman" or that "i don't ACTUALLY need others to validate/affirm me, i can do it myself".
like yes i can do that but it fucking hits different when someone else says that. especially if it's someone close to you.
but apparently it's too hard for some people to tell a trans woman in need that they'll "always be a woman". even if you explicitly fucking request that. even if that someone is your partner who also happens to be a trans woman.
apparently according to her i don't need anyone else "to tell me that" because "i'm already a woman"
i hate this constant dismissal of what i need. just tell me what i want and i'll get out of your fucking way.
makes me wonder what's the point of having friends/partners even is when you can't even depend on rely on others and ALWAYS GOTTA FUCKING DO EVERYTHING YOURSELF to get what you want
Hardly. External recognition as what you feel you are, even if just from one person, can be the foundation of the identity's formation/coalescence. It doesn't make you lesser; especially not for vocalizing that need.