this tickles the fuck outta me, what is this from?!

  • GarfieldOfficial [he/him, comrade/them]
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    1 个月前

    https://web.archive.org/web/20240328004259/https://www.thecut.com/article/age-gap-relationships-marriage-younger-women-older-man.html

    I misremembered it being from a movie- it’s from some New York publication

    • nandos_house_of_glues [she/her]
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      1 个月前

      My husband isn’t my partner. He’s my mentor, my lover, and, only in certain contexts, my friend.

      catgirl-disgust

      • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]
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        1 个月前

        But when someone points out that this trend is broadly not great, on the grounds that your lover/spouse ought to be your peer, people dogpile him.

      • Krem [he/him, they/them]
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        1 个月前

        close enough

        I’ll never forget it, how he showed me around our first place like he was introducing me to myself: This is the wine you’ll drink, where you’ll keep your clothes, we vacation here, this is the other language we’ll speak, you’ll learn it, and I did. Adulthood seemed a series of exhausting obligations. But his logistics ran so smoothly that he simply tacked mine on. I moved into his flat, onto his level, drag and drop, cleaner thrice a week, bills automatic.

        also comments are beautiful

        As a single, older man, I found this essay both beautifully written and insightful. Thank-you!

        and

        This is an excellent essay, and it's shocking to see how hatefully it is derided and how many people are in denial of the reality the essay bravely takes on. In terms of mating,

        • BodyBySisyphus [he/him]
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          1 个月前

          As someone who studied writing in undergrad and then went on to not write anything of note, I find the ubiquity of this sort of vapid personal essay depressing.

        • ShimmeringKoi [comrade/them]
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          1 个月前

          This is the wine you’ll drink, where you’ll keep your clothes, we vacation here, this is the other language we’ll speak, you’ll learn it, and I did.

          Is it still captivity if you never put together that you're being held captive?