LMAO

  • kristina [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    i really dont get cheating. just like, go join an open relationship polycule?????

    • penguin_von_doom [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      You can't just go join an open relationship polycule, especially retroactively, when you've entered a relationship with someone. Even then it is a very basic question of integrity, emapthy and decency not to cheat on them. If it turns out monogamy is not your thing, have the decency to break it off before you fuck someone up for life

      • kristina [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        yeah obviously. im just saying she supposedly cheated before meeting the OP on that one, but after that experience why didnt she look for open relationships??

        • penguin_von_doom [she/her]
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          4 years ago

          IDK, some people just lack the self-reflection and maturity. IMO such a person would cheat in an open relationship too.

      • kristina [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        its just weird to me. if youre sexually promiscuous from the last time you cheated why dont you just own up to it?? like she clearly knows she wants multiple hogs

          • kristina [she/her]
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            4 years ago

            maybe its because im queer or something and im just willing to label things as they are? maybe she just doesnt know thats a thing you can do?

              • kristina [she/her]
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                4 years ago

                ive been invited to two trans polycules off the cuff before so maybe thats just the queer experience™️

                  • kristina [she/her]
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                    4 years ago

                    im pretty boring so i just cuddled them all and went my way after some drinks but it was nifty. im mono with a slant towards mischievous if my partner lets me

                      • kristina [she/her]
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                        4 years ago

                        i gave it a go. it was ok. im a bit of an attention whore so it feels kinda like theres 5 minutes of me getting stuff and 10 minutes of me giving which doesnt feel super right. like my monkey brain is just saying 'wow this is a bit lopsided now isnt it you're doing WAY more work'

                        a foursome sounds more my speed tbh, wasnt fond of the threesome

          • penguin_von_doom [she/her]
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            4 years ago

            I'll go out on a limb and say you shouldn't be in ANY relationship, beyond a professional client-provider with their therapist. Non-monogamous relationships take even more work than monogamous, and require all the negotiations, openness and so on. I think if someone fails at not cheating on one partner will completely fuck up things with multiple partners just as bad.