haven't heard of that book before but I'll check it out. the thing I want to urge you away from is the notion that people are entitled to the ideas in their heads -- that they in some sense, possess them. with this step comes commodification and we should be fighting that snake every step of the way. moreover, the world as it exists today is violent and broken. it will take a lot of work and, yes, violence to undo that. proponents of queer feminism are not doing anything separate from what every revolutionary seeks to do -- get a foothold in the war of position in order to set the terms of the more material conflict.