idk how to help them. they said even if they could move out they don’t have the $ to move. i can easily pay, i have a decent job and don’t spend a lot.
anyway, besides finding a new place, what can be done? they don’t want to just bounce because they aren’t going to leave the others hanging. also the other roommate isn’t comfortable living with anyone other than my comrade... so that makes it difficult. it’s just one thing after another. there has to be a way though and i want to help them in anyway i can.
i just felt really sad after dropping them off. they really loved their partner but they are officially separated.
i also want to just venmo them money every week because they’re going to therapy and also mentioned trying to save for medicine. is that crossing a boundary? it’s literally the least i can do but they said in the past ppl give them stuff and would expect something back and it’s kind of a trigger.
Is your comrade's name on the lease? And is there a written flatting agreement between the three of them?
If the shitty roommate in question is really bad, I would just find someone suitable to take over the lease, then give the roommate a choice between letting them move in, or sucking up the extra cost of the lease. It may be more complicated if your comrade's name is on the lease and/or there is a written flatting agreement.