It makes me so mad/sad that this is the modern reality for relationships. At the same time my self esteem is skyrocketing because of all the likes like a casino with bright lights and big numbers but the whole thing feels cheapened. I know there's more valid reasons to this besides the fact that idk how to text matches but I'm blanking

  • TheOneTrueChapo [comrade/them]
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    4 years ago

    I don't have a source but IIRC the more people swipe right on you, the higher on the stack you get, and if people who are often swiped right by others swipe right on you this pushes you up even further. Also, if you swipe right a lot but people swipe left on you a lot you get pushed down in rankings. Basically it's a cyclical process where people who get swipes and matches get set up to get even more meanwhile the more, well, lonely users get pushed aside

    • Prinz1989 [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Can confirm, as a "more lonely" user I just stopped using the app. Like what are bald, bookish people even supposed to do in todays world? Seems it's all about looks and sport.

      • Randomdog [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        Like what are bald, bookish people even supposed to do in todays world?

        Wait 320 years then become a starship captain

      • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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        4 years ago

        Well, aside from relationships, if you have time you should start doing sport - doesn't have to be UFC. Sport does wonders for you mental and physical wellbeing. Helps you with making friends too.